We as parents have all heard this term used many times yet I still read daily social media and find that parents aren’t listening to the true meaning behind this phrase. I hear the cries of “My children don’t respect me” and “My kids are so ungrateful”…well why do you think that is? You are the parent who is raising these kids to walk all over you therefore you have the power to change them!!! You are a parent and not a friend means just that…stop worrying about whether or not your kids are going to hate you because at some point in their lives they are going to and that is when you know you have done your job right. I am not saying that you need to be Hitler at raising your children but simply that if you feel like you need to put your foot down, then you probably do.
Let’s talk about chores for instance. A child at the time they can walk can start out doing chores such as putting their toys away. Gradually as they develop and grow you can give them more responsibility. Don’t think that because you are the parent that you have to wait on them hand and foot. Doing so only turns kids into loathing 25 year olds still living at home with mommy and daddy because anything less would be….well just that…less. Work ethic to them is succeeding at the latest level of their current video game addiction or how many followers they have on the latest social media network.
I often wonder about the parents who just simply “check out” of their kids “checking in” to the real world, like it is some sort of inconvenience to raise what they have brought into this world. Letting them do what they want, just because it seems easier is not an option. Do I as a parent pick my battles? Of course I do but I always make sure my kids know that I still have the upper hand and that at any given moment I can change the life that they have become so accustomed to.
As a society of parents let’s do each other a favor…TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR CHILDREN!!! It’s ok to tell them no and send them to their room or a time out to the nearest corner, whichever you prefer. It’s ok to take their prized possessions, aka cell phones, tv, game systems, designer clothes, and social life and media away from them. As a matter of fact I encourage this. You can be their friend after they have moved out, paid their own way, and started a life of their own. Tough love is not a term used for describing getting your heart broke. It means loving your children but still knowing when it is time to take hold of the reigns, put your foot down, and not give into their never ending wants(NOTICE I SAID WANTS NOT NEEDS). Being a parent means having to be “mean” sometimes and always being one step ahead of your children’s actions…it’s ok…life will go on and the less menaces to society we have running around…the better.