Just Get Over It!

I am going to say right now that this post is probably going to offend someone, somewhere…but you know what?  I am someone who practices my right of “Freedom Of Speech”!  And if you don’t like what I have to say on PUBLIC social media then by all means…unfollow me, block me, or do whatever makes you feel better about yourself.

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We live in 2015.  **NEWSFLASH**  It’s a day and age that if you want to…you can post your life, and all of it’s entirety via numerous social networks.  You can blog, vlog, post status updates, and if you wanted to…you could film yourself taking a shit and by golly someone out there would want to watch that…shit.

How about the sex industry?  Do you think sex doesn’t sell?  Are you a moron?  DO YOU LIVE UNDER A ROCK?  Hmmm that must be why it’s one of the leading money making industries.  Because somehow no one is “talking” about it or by all means WATCHING IT or even better….WRITING ABOUT IT!  Whoa!  I mean come on…how do you think you got here?  We are all here because two people had sex and created us yet there are still certain people who want to play “hush hush don’t talk about that filthy dirty word called sex“.  People want to bash “50 Shades Of Gray” because somewhere in their life someone abused them.  Don’t blame the movie…blame the person who abused you!  Because let’s face it…what good is getting mad at a “fictional” movie going to do about what happened to you and further more if you knew what it was about then why even bother watching it, if it’s going to stir up that many emotions???  For me, I stay clear of anything that I know is going to disturb me in any way.  Granted yes that isn’t much.  But there are demons living in my closet just as much as there are living in even to most “saintly” of people.

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In this day and age it amazes me how easily offended people are.  What happened to “a sense of humor” or having “thick skin”.  I surely hope I am not raising my kids to cry every time someone says something that they don’t like.  I realize that bullying is a real issue and I in no way condone it….but…yep there’s a but in here…I also think that regardless of where you live, what kind of school your child attends, or how much you TRY to protect them…there is always going to be a BULLY.  Therefore, I believe in teaching my kids to be stronger then the bully.  Sign them up for a boxing or karate class so they know how to…how should I put it….kick someone’s ass that deserves it defend themselves.  Teach them that words are just that….WORDS!  Teach them that k-12th grade is only a fraction of their lives and that there is so much more life to live out there and so many more worthy people to meet!

Now I don’t like to call people names give people labels but I am quite certain that these people I am referencing to in this post are what we all call “prudes” and prude by means of  definition.com is…

a person who is excessively proper or modest in speech, conduct, dress, etc.

which you know what?  I am fine with a person being prude but let me just state here that I have never claimed to be a “good mommy blog”.  My name is Domesticated Momster for a reason.  There are going to be times that I put on my big girl panties and get down to business.  There are times that I am going to tell it how I feel it at the moment and there will be NO LOLLIPOP GIVEN.  If anything I classify my blog as humor more then “mommying”.  Yes I gripe about my kids and my husband and my everyday life.  Those who don’t ever bitch about their lives are the ones that truly freak me out.  Like so many skeletons in the closet that the door is about to come unhinged.

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Do I feel like I should apologize for offending anyone?  No…I don’t…I can be a real bitch sometimes and I own it.  But I am also the person who would be your friend till the end and support you in every way I knew possible.  I would answer the phone when you called in the middle of the night…well unless I was passed out or the ambien actually worked….other then that I would totally answer that call and then bitch at you for calling instead of texting.  But hey that’s just me and I am a person you either love or you hate…there is no in-between.  In between means indecisive and I can’t be around people who can’t make a decision about anything.  And she lived happily ever after….

Rant Over,

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84 comments

  1. Excellent rant! It’s good to get it all out there and off your chest. I love your honesty and humour – your blog is all you and you should be proud of it! And you are a wonderful friend, I’m delighted to be getting to know you! 🙂 x

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  2. I love this. You are so right – there is way too much political correctness and not stepping on anyone’s toes these days! I tend to be a little opinionated myself (I know you never would have guessed, right?!) and some people just can’t handle it. My suggestions to those people are 1. don’t ask me questions if you don’t want my true opinion and 2. as you said, unfriend me! My close friends know what I’m like so if they don’t want the truth, they don’t ask me 🙂
    Sure, sometimes I offend people, but I would rather have a smaller social circle that like me for me than a huge one that like me being fake! #effitfriday
    Debbie
    http://www.myrandommusings.blogspot.com

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    1. Thank you … I totally agree that is rather have a handful of friends who love me then a room full of trolls…life’s just too short not to be who you want to be. Thanks for taking the time to read and comment sweets. 🙂

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  3. We all need a good rant sometimes. I hope you feel lighter now. I haven’t seen the film but I have heard about the book so I know the gist of it but don’t feel I can comment directly. But I am quite happy to say that sex is not to be embarrassed about. It is a natural healthy part of life that of course can be used in a destructive way, but that doesn’t make sex itself a problem.

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    1. I totally agree. There are bad places that sex lives but for those of us that can embrace it and know that it’s something that makes us happy then we should be able to express that and sometimes joke about it. 🙂

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  4. Ah, don’t start me on being politically correct. I honestly can’t keep up. I like to joke and am very sarcastic. I must admit that it doesn’t often translate on social media. tough shit. #effitfriday

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    1. Yes…I feel that if you don’t like what I write then don’t read it. It’s that simple. If you don’t like me in person then don’t pretend to be my friend. Cause if you are offended easily then you won’t be able to hang in my circle of “real” friends. Thanks for popping over and saying hello!

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  5. FUCK YES! I agree! Oh how’s this for a skeleton… my great grandma was a prostitute during World War II. She was a single mom of 2 and had to pay the bills somehow. BOOM. I judge no one. I hate when people judge me, so I feel your angst. Tell them to go eat a bag of donkey dicks.

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  6. Hahaha! I love your straightforwardness ‘DoesItEvenMatterWhoIAm? (sorry, haven’t seen your blog yet so don’t know your name) and honesty. Too many people out there who are too quick to judge others instead of taking care of their own business. DomesticatedMomster – GOOD FOR YOU! I haven’t seen the film, nor read the book and although I don’t consider myself a prude (my friends would be happy to verify that, haha!) it’s personal choice that I haven’t. I don’t like watching or reading about sex, at least not graphically, but that doesn’t stop me enjoying it! 😀
    Re the rest of your blog (and all of ours for that matter), YES, YES, YES to freedom of speech, it’s your space, your choice and like you and Elena and others have said, if you don’t like what I’ve got to say then go shave your poodle!
    Great blog, great post – I really enjoy reading them. Have a wonderful weekend of FREEDOM in whatever form that takes xxx
    Oh, and because I can be a bit dim (maybe it’s my age!) so please don’t laugh (oh… go on then…) what’s ‘effitfriday’?

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      1. You’re welcome 😊. Thanks for recommending self musings, I’ll look in in her blog later. Linky? No I haven’t. How do you go about joining one? Popping out now but will check back later.
        Really pleased to be connecting and ‘getting to know you’ 🙂

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  7. That’s a rant worthy of being called a rant lol! I agree with you! It’s simple! Freedom of speech! Thank you for linking on #effitfriday

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  8. Brava! I unfriend people all the time for being assholes. I can’t stand anyone who thinks their opinion is the only one that matters.

    As for the bullying thing, it sucks. My kid got bullied horribly in first and second grade. Like got beat up every day at recess, not just the name calling although there was that too. I did put him in karate (he’s currently a purple belt) so he could defend himself. I even spoke to the Sensei about what was going on and he spent extra time with him. Two months after he started karate he beat the crap out his bully, who happens to live right next door. I stood there and watched. Some people might think that’s wrong but that kid needed a beating. He never touched my son after that.

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    1. **high five mama** I don’t condone fighting unless it’s in self defense of course. I have watched utube videos where a bully just bullied someone enough that they finally fought back and won. I was constantly bullied as a teen. I lived in a small town and some of the girls were just pure evil. One day I just said fuck it and told one that if she wanted to roll punches then let’s go…no one bothered me after that except for the occasional “mean girl” comments. I think we have all experienced bullying in our lifetime…it is just worse now because of social media. But good for your son for sticking up for himself. It’s hard as a parent to teach our kids to be kind and tough all at the same time. As for the prude adults…they have every right to be…just don’t judge me for being different. 😀

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      1. That’s why I love karate. They teach discipline and that it’s not to be used unless in self defense.

        I’m no fan of prudes either. In fact I had to ask my husband to untie me so I could write this comment.

        KIDDING!!!

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    1. I actually never finished the series of books and I have no real desire to see the movie only because it just looks cheesy to me. I have better things to do with my time these days 😉 But yes I had to give off a good rant…it was brewing. 🙂

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  9. Do not censor yourself because of a few whining bitches! I love you for who you are and absolutely respect your ” tell it like it is ” attitude!!!

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  10. I’m a prude, but that applies to how I run my own life. I couldn’t care less whether someone else talks openly about sex or whatever. I’ll just be the one at the side blushing 😀 😀

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      1. Lol…you just need someone to bust you out of that shell!!! Hey I have respect about people who are private about any topic of their life…I was just upset because a couple people are trying to say that I shouldn’t be so openly vulgar about certain things and I was just letting them know that they don’t need to read my shit if they don’t want to. :))

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  11. Loved it! Love your style of writing! People have to get butt-hur over everything these days. It’s sad how touchy people have become over time, if anything you think we would have all loosened up a lot by now. Lol. As far as 50 Shades goes, I don’t understand the problem, it’s a movie. Getting mad over it, would be like protest in Harry Potter because someone might get the impression that wizards exist. Certainly will be following. glad I found you through #effitfriday.

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    1. Thanks for popping by and saying hello! I am quite pleased with those that have popped over from #effitfriday. So glad you liked the read…I will pop over and take a peeksy at your blog as well since I already am intrigued by your name.

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  12. Ah yes, the convenience prude. Will read/watch 50 Shades and even stood in line for the midnight showing but then will judge others harshly for similar stuff. Lame! I’ve known a few peeps like that in my day. Try to avoid negative people with tons of drama like the plague now that I’m older though. Life is too short to waste it on people who just want to suck you dry, drain your positive energy and bring you down. Your memes crack me up btw. Do you make them? #effitfriday

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  13. This is my favorite rant! I couldn’t have said it better myself. I have no filter and if someone doesn’t like it, Bye!! <—- I know the appropriate times to "filter" myself. I am sarcastic and if people are offended by it then it is their loss, I am fun! Lol at least I think so. It drives me crazy that people judge on the daily about petty things when there is wayyyyy more out there to worry about. Great read. I think we have common minds 🙂

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    1. Yes we do 🙂 I have been peeking around your blog the past couple days and truly appreciate your outlook on motherhood. Thanks for taking the time to read my rant. It stemmed from a few events over the course of a couple weeks. And I feel much better getting it all out. :))

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  14. Loved this!! You have every right to say this and I am glad you did. People always try find things to moan about and honestly they shouldn’t because it is quite silly. Some people look for problems. So I am glad you wrote this.

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  15. I knew I was going to love this post when you opened with “This is probably going to offend someone” 🙂 I sat nodding along the whole time. For the record, one of the main things I love about your blog is that you tell it like it is, no sugar coating.
    Thanks for linking up to #AnythingGoes
    Debbie

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    1. Thanks Debbie 🙂 I really don’t want to be a writer that doesn’t say what I feel like saying. Especially when there are so many places where women aren’t even allowed to speak. Thanks so much for hosting the fab #AnythingGoes.

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  16. I am liking you more and more woman! Fifty Shades of Grey (the book, not the movie) did trigger me by the time I got to chapter five (I never even got to the sex part, which was why I decided to read the damn thing in the first place) but once I knew it did, I put it down and will not watch the movie. It’s also bad writing. I know what my limits are but I also have spoken to many women who love the book and I understand why they did. As for bullying, I think it’s important to teach our kids that not everyone they meet is going to be nice or even like them, so it’s my job to teach them how to handle that and move on. As for sex, I can talk about sex all damn day and I hate that so many people around me aren’t wanting to talk about it like it’s some sort of disease or something. It’s things like that that make me homesick for Baltimore where my friends are and they don’t shy away from any topic. They do say that 2015 is the year everyone is offended by everything. LOL! Love the post Trista! Visiting from #anythinggoes

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    1. Thanks Michelle! You would love my husband and I …we are always offending someone with our topics of conversation lol. It’s true though some people just live in a bubble and should have a “DO NOT DISTURB” sign attached to them…way too sensitive in a world that would eat them up if they actually ever ventured into it. This was actually an older post of mine but I have been feeling this way about some things lately so I decided to dust it’s cob webs off and repost it 😉 thanks for popping over love!

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    1. Thanks Becky. Yes I pulled it out of the archives for I have been feeling a bit like this again lately. Probably the spark coming from someone bringing my husband into HR at work for cussing on the work bus. Like seriously some people need to get thicker skin. They are miners…not suits. But anyway….lalalala thanks for popping over 😜

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  17. I agree with you on nearly everything you say in your post. People are way too hung up about what others are saying and doing. If you dont like it dont bloody read/listen/watch it.

    I am someone who has an issue with 50 shades though. Not so much the books themselves, im a big girl so I can chose not to read them, but the hype and misinterpretation of the book really does bother me. To ‘normalise’ emotional and coersive abuse and then use it to see everything from sex toys to washin up liquid potentially puts out a very dangerous message to males and females whos behaviour can be influenced bybthese tupe of messages.

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    1. I have seen the movie and as usual I was disappointed how far off it was from the book. I think the author of the series took a chance on writing about a subject that no one talks about but there is a lot of going on. I think some people would be shocked at what really goes on in our world when it comes to sex. I also don’t think that anyone under the age of 25 should be watching the movie or reading the books. But that’s just my opinion. 😉

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      1. Its not really the sex parts of the book that bother me. I have friends who enjoy BDSM and although it does absolutely nothing for me personally it doesnt shock me, each to their own. Its the stuff outside of the sex scenes that is wrong. When I see young girls saying how ‘romantic’ it is that he wont let her spend any time with anyone other than him because he ‘loves’ her so much, and how they wish they could find a man like that. Im like whoooooaah wait a minute, been there, done that and there is fuck all romantic about finding yourself on the receiving end of that kind of controlling/abusive shit.
        Sorry, getting a bit ranty, i’ll shut up now Xx

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      2. Oh I enjoy ranting…good discussion…usually when I get on a rant about something it sparks from reading something else. I grew up in a very abusive environment and nothing about it was romantic. I have also been in “controlling” relationships. Needless to say they didn’t last long. If there’s one thing I know about myself at 40 something it’s that I will not be controlled. But I totally understand the message you are pointing out. Young girls are so vulnerable these days. I see it on the internet all the time and it scares me…especially when I am raising two of my own.

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  18. ABSOLUTELY!! #1- people are WAY too “politically correct” these days. What happened to humor? Every little thing turns into a huge deal, and it’s incredibly annoying and downright STUPID. #2- You’re right. No matter where you are, there’s always going to be a bully. Kids need to learn self respect and how to let things roll off their shoulders. It’s harder to teach that nowadays because of what I mentioned in point #1! 3- You’re awesome. Drop the mic. You’re done. 😉 #anythinggoes

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    1. It truly is sad that people take things personally and offensively so quickly. I could say some random thing on my Facebook page and it’s amazing how many people will think I was talking about them. Political correctness gone mad is the perfect statement. Thanks for popping over for a visit!

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