This was a post from January of last year. I didn’t make any changes to it but I have posted an update at the end of it.
I have always been quite the outgoing gal. Always made friends really easily growing up and even in my early adulthood. Granted, a lot of those friendships were made through my work but easily made just the same. After I had kids some of those friendships changed because when you are single and have no children you have a tendency to flock with birds of the same feather. So after my first child was born I joined mommy groups and even started one of my own and from those I made friendships that are still in existence to this day, even though the distance between us now is a six hour drive.
We moved here to the northern hemisphere of Nevada in March of 2014. I have met a few people but mostly I just hang out with my husband and his friends from work (which are usually all men). I have tried starting a mommy group and several people say they want to get together but never do. I can be a total hermit sometimes, but I am still willing to make the effort if someone else is willing to meet me half way.
During the summer time I noticed that my across the street neighbor was going to the same soccer practice that I was taking my (at the time 4 yr old) to. I have only noticed older girls playing in the yard though and never any toddlers. Then today I noticed that she left at the same time I left to go get 2 of my 3 littles from preschool but I couldn’t tell when I pulled into the parking lot of the preschool exactly what car may be hers or if her child/children even attend preschool there. Then after I get home I am sitting here in the office typing up this blog and I have the window open to see if I can see her pull into her garage. I almost feel like a STALKER! So I ask myself…why don’t I just trot my happy ass across the street and knock on her door and say “howdy neighbor”. Because that would just be weird…that’s why. I try to think what my reaction would be if someone were to do that to me but quite honestly I would most likely be happy just to meet another mommy! Especially if they lived in walking distance! And if they liked to drink wine in the afternoon well then that would just seal the deal!!! **motions wine glass at the computer screen**
When we moved into our house I payed attention to some of the kids on the street but all are older then my littles. One of the neighbors stopped by while she was on her way out to say a quick hello and welcome us to the neighborhood. Her kids are older but she seemed super nice ….plus she drives a jetta….really cool people drive jettas…I know this because I used to drive one. **smiles to herself** Not to mention her and her husband have a ton of dirt toys and just look like they would be fun people. They even tried to help me chase down my escapee German Shepard one day and if I wasn’t so frazzled at the time I probably would have realized that it would have been a perfect opportunity to stop and possibly strike up a conversation with them. But I didn’t. Damn dog.
I know that everything takes time but I have always been an instant gratification type of person. I am hoping that now that all of my kids have will be in school this fall, that maybe this will give me the opportunity to meet some other mommies. And as I wrap up this blog post, my neighbor has yet to have pulled into her garage or I am not very good at stalking and I missed her. **sighs**
Searching For Mrs. Right,
UPDATE JANUARY 2016:
I still have not had a conversation with my across the street neighbor. Well unless you count the 30 second one sometime during last spring while picking up our kids from preschool. I have been told that they are mormon so there goes the whole “let’s drink wine together idea”. And even though I have decided to quit drinking as a goal for 2016, I know that I will never do anything but wave at her if we happen to be in our yards or leaving our homes at the same time.
The cool couple up the street still remain strangers as well. The woman works at the coffee shop where I get my coffee a couple mornings a week and we know that we live two houses away from each other but still no communication other than she always remembers my order.
When we were having this house built everyone told us how cool our next door neighbors were. The same neighbors that told us to “keep it down” one evening when it was just my husband and I in the backyard last summer having a conversation and laughing. Wow…yeah…lots of fun they seem like. We didn’t seem to mind when he parked his truck in our driveway one night, after we had first moved into this house, and it sat there for 24 hours before he finally came and got it. My husband and I have a few scenarios of what could have possibly happened there.
After having our yard done last summer, and we did the entire front of it in desert landscaping, apparently we were referred to as the “rock yard” since most people around here have grass in their front yard. To me, grass in the front yard is just something more to maintain and a waste water.
Now don’t get me wrong, I have made a few friends since moving here and I do enjoy my husband’s friends that he works with but I just always thought it would nice to have someone that I could just take a short walk and have a
glass of wine cup of coffee with while our kids run amuck.
Maybe this year…..