Ely Nevada nowhere rural

~My Favorite~

Well I have failed miserably at one of my blogging goals for the year which was to write from the daily post topic a few times a week.  Guess we will shoot for once a month.

This particular topic is titled “My Favorite”What’s the most time you’ve ever spent apart from your favorite person? Tell us about it.

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As much as my husband can rattle my nerves he is still my favorite person.

In 2010 my husband was laid off from his job.  It was when the economy in southern Nevada had taken a serious tank and being a heavy equipment operator, when economy is down, so is construction.

In 2011 he applied for a job in the mining industry and luckily got the job.  The bad part was this was in a town called Ely, NV and it was a 4 hour drive from our home in Southern Nevada.

If you have never been to Ely, Nevada well let me just assure you that you aren’t missing a damn thing because it’s a little piece of nothing in the middle of nowhere.  There’s absolutely nothing, nada, zilch there.Ely Nevada nowhere rural  Well except a McDonalds …those are everywhere.  Therefore, the thought of moving there was not at the top of my priority list.  So instead he commuted home a couple times a month on his days off.

We had a 1 year old, a 2 month old, and about a month later found out we were pregnant with baby #3.  Surprise!  And let’s not forget two older boys who were 10 and 12 at the time.

This meant I was home alone taking care of 5 kids by myself for the majority of 3 years.  It’s equivalent to being a single parent only I didn’t work full time.

It’s true what they say that “absence makes the heart grow fonder”.  I was always happy to see him but knew that the time would be short lived and was always sad after he left.  When my son was 3-years-old, I remember him crying “daddy don’t go bye bye” and standing in the driveway bawling as the little white Jetta we owned drove down the road.  It was then I knew some changes had to be made.

For me it was easy to pop back into my routine after he left but to see my kids missing their daddy…well that was heart wrenching for me.

Luckily some jobs opened up at various other mines and upon being offered a job at several of the ones my husband applied for we decided the best option was where we are now.  It was time to move.mining heavy equipment

Moving has never been easy for me.  I get very attached to my surroundings and friends that I make and the thought of leaving that all behind scared me.  We had to sell a house in an economy that was just barely recovering at the time. Unknown.jpeg And we were pretty insistent that we were going to make the move in one trip using the U-Haul we rented and our truck.  Needless to say I had to make a trip back on my own to pick up the last of a few things and finalize the papers on the house as it actually sold faster than we thought it would.

Now it’s almost 2 years later and even though my husband works a lot and is gone for very long periods of time (16 hours) on the days or nights he does work.  It’s still nice that we all get to see each other everyday…well most days…some days I feel like hitting him with a frying pan he can get on my nerves as well as I am sure I can get on his.

That’s marriage!

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17 comments

  1. Aside from my kids, I am away from a few of my favorite people, all of whom are still living in my hometown. I miss them terribly sometimes but I’m hoping to go down there for a visit this summer and I’m looking forward to it.

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      1. My drive from MA to MD is about 6 hrs too and two years ago I made three trips in two months and it took a toll on my car so I had to stop but this year I am really hoping to get my happy self back down there to be with my sis and my friends I haven’t seen in too long. It will be a nice break for me and a welcome distraction.

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      1. Hey, BTW, Go Broncos! Woo Hoo! I’m torn who to root for though, Peyton to go out on a high note or Ron Rivera (I’m a Bears fan, after all) for what he’s done.

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      2. Thank you. It was a very stressful game. My husband and I are both HUGE Broncos fans. Like I don’t think people realize how huge. Everyone has been asking if we are having a party but we are like nope…we just want to focus on the game and not have to talk or entertain anyone lol.

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  2. Hey, McDonald’s has a great yogurt parfait. That’s all my kids want. (except my son also wants a double cheeseburger.)

    We have sacrificed a better financial life-style so that my hubby is home and can coach sports teams, etc. He had better paying job offers, that required hours from home. Right now, we are at the road we just can’t make it financially and haven’t for some time. Our credit cards (plural) are maxed. Even with me working, we’ve been about $500 short every month. (it basically the two association dues – if we didn’t have those)

    He had a head hunter contact him and they wanted him to drive to Temecula (about 2 hours away) and to be a Sales Director. The guy wanted him to come to one last interview. Managing a team meant long hours and southern CA traffic is awful. So he’d be gone all the time. That wasn’t okay with me. He left the main decision to me and said he’d do whatever I wanted. He, personally, didn’t relish the idea of long hours away. And moving to Temecula wasn’t necessarily that much cheaper cost of living.

    We opted for him to keep the same sales job he has now that allows him to work from home. But, now we have to move out of state.

    So I get it. Your case is a bit more extreme. But I can understand and commiserate. Our condo goes on the market / open house first weekend of Feb. I think we’re heading to Meridian, ID. (nothing is in stone yet) except the selling the condo is for certain.

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    1. You know, it’s funny cause there are really times that I would like to go back to how things were then. I think it’s because I liked the idea of missing him and we didn’t seem to argue as much. When he’s home on his days off I expect more parenting out of him and hate to have to ask him for it. I somehow keep thinking he will just step it up and give me a break. When we were separated I just did everything because I knew I had to. But I also had Vegas at a 45 min drive and so much more to do with the kids. But the kids missed their daddy and for me that was just the deciphering factor. I didn’t want them growing up thinking that daddy was absent when the only reason he was was because he was working hard to provide for us. Things for me are getting more normal as time goes on and now I have those few hours to myself in the mornings. Working out has helped my mental state tremendously and I find that I only pick an argument if I really think something needs to be addressed. Otherwise I just leave sleeping dogs lie as they say. I hope your condo sales fast and that you get the price you want for it or more. Good luck my friend!💌Trista

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      1. Oh, I’m with you on the “parenting” thing. My husband does not discipline. He leaves it to me and my 12-year old has hit puberty early. He’s constantly rolling his eyes, telling me no…etc. I end up YELLING because he won’t listen to me or do something. And then my hubby asks me why I’m yelling and then yells at me. I told him, that he needed to be on the same page. I didn’t talk to him for entire night, even after he apologized to me. (out of character for me, but I was pissed) Now, I just get him more involved. Kids ask me something… I direct them to him…Ask dad. Dad, it’s time for his medicine and he doesn’t want to take it. (asthma and allergies) He’s got zits everywhere and doesn’t want to Oxy. Dad is finally picking up some slack because if you don’t want me yelling at our son at his disrespect then he needs to step up and deal with some of the crap.

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      2. I feel like my husband’s job is the job he goes to and my job is to keep the house running in order and cleaned up (which yes sometimes I slack on but he gets to slack at work sometimes too) but parenting is 24/7. And trying to get him to understand that without it turning into an argument is what is really starting to get to me. He tells me to just say if I need help but I just shouldn’t have to…he should know what needs to be done. He thinks our 3 year old should be able to do the same things that our 6 year old knows how to do. It just doesn’t work like that. Maybe I will try your strategy lol.

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      3. I’m not saying my way is any better. But, it takes ALL of the burden from my shoulders and places some responsibility on him. I’m less likely to “yell” then. Oh, you don’t want to take your medicine, and you want internet for your game…go see dad check with him. Now he can fight the medicine battle. 🙂

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  3. My favorite people are my husband and our 5 year old daughter. It’s hard to chose just one! I understand the distance as my husband has worked in the oilfield since the day I relented and moved from Pennsylvania to Wyoming. Seriously – I moved on a weekend and come Monday morning he we gone for the week! Luckily for us, he worked out of town M-F and home every weekend. That taught me about my independence. Two years later we added a little girl to our family who became my everything. Seeing her tear up when daddy would leave and go off the walls when he came home was tough! Now with the oil industry lacking, he is home every night. Where there are things I like about him being home, helping to read stories with our daughter, go to her practice, and tucking her in bed. I miss our routine without him and my independence. Sadly when he’s gone, by Wednesday I’m showering with his soap, wearing his t-shirts to bed, and sleeping on his side of the bed. I’ll miss her excitement when he comes home every night when things pick back up. I might even miss him a little bit too. 😜

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      1. I do – I moved from Pennsylvania to Evansville (Casper) almost 7 years ago to be with my oilfield man. Small world!! I will definitely check out your link. I’m sadly struggling with all this new computer lingo, but like anything new, there is always an adjustment period. Thank you again!

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