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Letting Go OF The Linky Guilt

linky guilt blogging bloggers

There are so many linkys now days and I am here to finally say that I just don’t have enough time to always link up with every one of them.  I link when I can, when I have something worthy of linking up, and when I know that I have time for the commenting.  When I get behind in the commenting I have to put linking aside all together.

As a blogger who also runs her own linky, I am ALWAYS reading, commenting, and sharing  on almost every blog post I read.  Sometimes to the point that I don’t even have time to write or read anything besides those blogs.

And I love to read.

And I love to write.

And I love blogging.

I have a gazillion things to write about but I just haven’t had the time to write about them. There’s 24 drafts in my draft folder right now.  What does that tell you?

I have 2 T-ball games, dance classes, T-ball party, awards ceremony, Memorial Day glamping, two graduations, hair and car appts in the city, dress rehearsals, a dance recital and then preparing for our first big summer vacation…all in the next 3 weeks.  I am sure I am missing something in there.


So yes, this is indeed why I have decided that I must let go of the linky guilt.  Even the blogging guilt.  That’s the great thing about this being my blog…I can do what I want to with it.

Same goes for those of you who sometimes may not have time to link with #momsterslink.  I indeed understand and don’t take it personally.  As long as I see you all linked up from time to time I am happy.

We are all busy not only with blogging but with home, kids, spouses…LIFE!


Linkys are a lot of work to run.  For those of you considering starting one, I would suggest that you understand that most of your blog reading will be done reading the blogs that link up.  And if your linky is successful it will become harder to have time to write and network.

I have tried putting myself on a blogging schedule but it inevitably gets messed up due to my husband’s work schedule because on his days off there’s stuff to do and I know for awhile there he thought I was having a love affair with my blog.

I am also trying to gather more knowledge for my love of photography and design.  Which sometimes with my OCD can become completely time consuming due to perfection and getting something exactly how I want it or watching tutorials to learn something new.

I encourage everyone to let go of the linky guilt if you are suffering from it.  If you host one and need a break then take one.  BREATHE.  There’s so much more to life than linkys.  Buuuuut…it is the best way to find your blogging posse, get your blog read, and meet new bloggers.

So linky on but sometimes take some time off if you need to.

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99 comments

  1. It can be very time consuming. I have several that I try and hit each week, ( like yours ) but I don’t always get there. Since most of the ones I’m aware of are UK based, the time difference usually puts me on the bottom anyway. The plus side is that I really have found plenty of people that I enjoy from linkies, and I like to think there have been some that have found me that way and like what I have to say.

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    1. I love your blog J. And I appreciate your faithfulness to my linky. They really are the best way to get your posts read and gain some fellow followers. I just need to stop feeling guilty when I don’t have time to link to every single one that invites me. I have a busy summer ahead. We bought a new camper and we plan to use it A LOT! Lol

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  2. I just decided today that I start with just reading blogs I have not visited for a while. No linky thingy involved here… two hours later and I have still some to go… I can’t imagine how it must be if you feel obliged to read… and at some point you do, even if you enjoy reading…

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  3. Excellent. Guilt has a sneaky way of keeping us not present in our minds, in our writing, in our parenthood, etc. I’m all for and support guilt intolerance (it’s more palatable than lactose intolerance, and overall intolerance in general.) As Winnie the Pooh lives and breathes, ‘just be’ and ‘oh bother’ are good things to remember. Rock on…

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  4. I love this, I am always feeling so much linky guilt and I just can’t keep up. It means reading posts that aren’t linked, writing and life sometimes gets squeezed and it should be like that (particularly the last one!). You’re lovely to be so welcoming and understanding as a linky host. And on that subject – I really don’t know how people run linkys! The weekly commitment seems enormous, I’m in awe!

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    1. I really love my linkers. And sometimes it’s the only chance I get to read their blogs. But I never want someone to feel bad for not linking up. I have started bouncing around with the ones I link up with instead of linking every week with all of them. And the past couple weeks I haven’t linked with anyone as I have just had more important things to tend to like my children πŸ˜‰

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  5. aww.. don’t give it a second thought! The good thing is we are mostly all parents too, so we understand.. Life is life and if that means reading 1 blog this week and 20 next week, and only linking once this month, as suits ours and our kids schedules then so be it… no biggy! You’re a great host, and you write a great blog! so rest assured you are doing something right πŸ™‚

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  6. I completely relate to this! I have a list in my diary each day of the linkys I want to link up to and yet some days the list is overwhelming as there really isn’t the time to do them all. I try and link up to my regular ones each week and I do sometimes feel guilty when I don’t make it on time, but I’m trying to follow your lead and let go of the guilt! Thanks for hosting, I appreciate all you do with your link, as you say it is time consuming and I cant even imagine how much reading you have to do each week! #momsterslink

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  7. This is so true and refreshingly honest. I love that I now co-host #fartglitter but I’m a little overwhelmed at just how much time it takes, not just in reading and commenting but scheduling tweets and #ffs etc. It is a lot of work… but I love it! I’m trying to keep going with the same number of linkies but like you, I think I may have to start alternating some weeks as otherwise I just won’t have time to write anything! I’ve always admired your honesty and the way that you call it out as it is. It’s your blog and you should step out and take a break whenever you need to. We’ll all still be here when you come back! :0) xx
    Thanks for hosting #momsterslink

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    1. Thank you Dawn! I love blogging and could never give it up completely but yes sometimes I have to let something give for there’s too much on my plate and it’s usually the blog. But yes I can always come back to it. Thank you for taking the time to read and comment and link up and also for hostessing fartglitter. It’s one of my faves to link to πŸ˜‰

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  8. Great to have you back! #momsterslink is the very first linky I joined and you helped me as I didn’t have a clue and now here I am linking away! Already I find it time consuming so totally get when life can interfere with the blog love affair! Thanks for hosting all the work you put in is really appreciated

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    1. Awe thank you! I appreciate you linking up and I love reading everyone’s blogs … I always find time somehow…sometimes I have more time sometimes I have less. My schedule has just been really busy with kids finishing up school and sports. My next 3 weeks are jam packed. I’m so glad you are liking the linky land. It really is a great way to network :))

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  9. It’s comforting to know that its not just me thinking this! I have just started my own linky and it is hard work, but in the best possible way. I also think it opened my eyes to how much effort goes into hosting a linky, so when I do link up elsewhere, I try to make sure that I follow the rules to the T and give a bit extra if I can. Thanks for hosting πŸ™‚ #Momsterslink

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    1. Yes I’ve been hostessing #momsterslink for a little over a year now …although over the holidays I took a few weeks off just to breathe and reconnect with the simplicity of blogging. The part I had forgotten about. It was wonderful and I think a necessity from time to time. I will have to check out your linky…please send me an invite on Twitter πŸ’‹πŸ’¨β€οΈ

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  10. Amen to this.

    It takes a little time to get over the initial excitement and realise sometimes the effort going into linking up isn’t always worth the one or two comments you may get back, if your heart isn’t really in it. Especially, as you say if you run your own Linky.

    This post says it all πŸ˜‰ See you in THREE WEEKS…yep I definitely need a break, and a holiday, and a little post holiday break.

    xx Thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub

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    1. It’s good to take a break and step back sometimes. Refreshes you. I never wanted blogging to become stressful. So when it does I just relax from it for a minute. But I’m always around even if it’s a snap or gram here and there πŸ˜‰ thanks so much for hostessing and again for letting me introduce myself 😘

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  11. I too have been trying to let go of the linky guilt. It’s hard to know which things to do first as a blogger. As you point out, when you run your own linky you have so many comments to do per week it’s hard to join in others. It’s tough but we just have to carry on doing what we can, that has to be good enough. #momsterlink x

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    1. I totally agree. I’m done stressing about blogging. I didn’t start it to be stressful. I honestly never thought I’d get it as far as its come so I should just pat myself on the back for that and be happy…think I will *pats back* thanks for linking up doll 😘

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      1. Absolutely Trista – I’ll give you a very well deserved pat too! Just popping back over to say thanks so much for linking up with us at #BloggerClubUK

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  12. Trista well said! So much linky guilt – to participate, not to participate…to run a linky or not, to read enough, to comment enough…I say…enough is enough! Thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub and not feeling guilty about it lol! xxx

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    1. I really do try to link to those who I’ve known since coming on the scene. Even if it’s only once in awhile. Lately my kid’s schedules have had me pulled in all sorts of directions so the blog has truly suffered but nothing to get stressed about. Really.

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  13. I love a good linky, and I feel now absolved of any guilt, should I miss a week or two. I have met the nicest people via the linky and have discovered some really great blogs. Who knew this whole world of super cool people existed! I love it! Ty for letting join up! #momsterlink

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  14. I am trying to get my blog on a schedule too, because apparently that is what established bloggers do, but I am not super good at it. I think I am kind of addicted to the stats and I panic if there are no visitors some dayand I feel bad, like I am letting the blog down. Then I remember that this is a hobby and makes zero money, so I should let go a bit.

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  15. I definitely feel linky guilt. I wish I had time to comment on every post in the linkys I join but I just don’t. Finding the time for everything blog related is so hard. Will def try to let go of the guilt though X #coolmumclub

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  16. I only just discovered the whole world of Linky’s so I am still free of any Linky guilt, but I sure am amazed that all you momma bloggers do so much reading and sharing and posting of other people’s stuff. I would love to, but haven’t managed to organize my schedule well yet. Creeping people on Facebook probably has to be cut out, that would buy me some time! I appreciate that you are doing stuff like this though, because as a new blogger it is certainly helpful.

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    1. I’ve been “serious” blogging for a little over a year now and let me tell you it takes a lot of effort some days to keep it going which is why I have to break away from it sometimes. I don’t want to stop loving it. Thanks for taking the time to read and comment. :))

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  17. Oh I enjoyed reading this because I too suffer from linky guilt and when you get reminders to join linky and you don’t have time to join it – argh! It can be really hard. We can only do what we can do and this is supposed to be fun πŸ™‚ #bloggerclubuk

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  18. I am so with you on this one! Because I run Twinkly Tuesday it takes up so much of my time that I just don’t manage to link up with any others! I’ve just linked up for the first time in God knows how long and I have to make sure that i can do all the commenting straight away else I never get round to it! #BloggerClubUK

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  19. Such a good idea. I enjoy the linky fun too. I host #abrandnewday and I get about 15 linked up each week at the moment. Onlt been going 10 weeks and I am really enjoying it. I went away on the spur of the moment last week and would have gladly left it off for a week but I had already scheduled everything so it ran anyway! ha ha. I should come check out momsterlink one day! #bloggerclubuk

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      1. I spotted some talking about getting lots of comments from us. This made me smile, I’ve not even been in yet! You’d be more than welcome πŸ˜€

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  20. I love the little linkie I host. It’s lovely to read all the new posts that my regulars share with me. It feels like I get a real insight into their lives. I know what you mean about it being a lot of work though. I have a schedule too, but it’s hard to always stick to it. Life happens eh! Good on you though for sticking with it.

    Sally @ Life Loving
    #BloggerClubUK

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    1. I’m horrible with my schedule … Plus I also try to keep up on other social media. I too love my linky and those who link to it…even the ones that only pop in once in awhile. I think sometimes it just depends on which ones fit into your schedule at the time.

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    1. That sounds like a good time. We haven’t been to any amusement parks in a long time but have thought about trying to get to Lagoon in SLC, UT this summer. We will be spending 10 days on the coast of Cali next month in Hotel Souza which I’m looking forward to breathing in the ocean. Have safe travels with your fam πŸ˜‰

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  21. oh I hear you! I love linkys and love the way I can read fab material and find new bloggers but I hate it if i’m under pressure and don’t have time to comment as then the reading isn’t as much as a pleasure – when I hit that point I know I need a break. Life is so busy sometimes that we shouldn’t feel guilt – you are so so right on that. I’m finding it easier to stand back a little more now than when I first started. I’m glad it’s not just me! Feeling I should visit your linky lovely as you are a fave blogger of mine! #BloggerClubUK

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  22. I am very new to linkys so found this a very interesting read – I certainly don’t want blogging to start to feel like a chore so will be wary of doing too many – am definitely not thinking of setting my own up! #PuddingLove

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    1. Like everything with blogging, I started my linky on a whim and hadn’t a clue as to what I was even doing. I had another linky I ran with a couple other bloggers and between the three of us we figured stuff out. I keep track to the ones I link up to. If there comes a time that I am not getting any comments at all then I don’t link to those ones anymore. And when you get into a good community you start to learn the linker and leavers.

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  23. It’s only recently i have started taking breaks without feeling guilty. I don’t always use linkys, i tried running my own but as you say it was far too time consuming. Maybe in the future i’ll re start it but for now i am happy to guest co host instead. I love reading blogs and writing my own but as you say we all have a life to live too! Thanks for linking up to #puddinglove

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    1. Yes! It’s a balancing act. Like right now my kids are all playing and entertaining one another regardless that the noise level in my house right now is crazy loud, I am still able to squeeze in some much needed blogging time.

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  24. Lol at your hubby thinking you were having a love affair with your blog. It really does feel like we eat, sleep, breathe blogging sometimes doesn’t it?! There are so many linky’s it is so true and then questions like if only a few amount link up is it worth linking with? or if a lot join up will I be seen? #BloggerClubUK

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    1. Yes it’s a very pick and choose world in the land of the linkys but still a great way to promote. I have caught people linking and leaving on my linky (I don’t mind sometimes, I know we all get busy) it’s the ones that do it consistently until I finally have to call them out on it.

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  25. I stopped joining linkys for a bit as I cant comment and I know that that is the essence of it. I am also letting go of my guilt. I started joining again and would sometimes comment on everyone and sometimes none at all. I wish that they know that I understand why they cant comment on mine and why I cant on theirs because moms life is just really hard =)

    #puddinglove

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  26. I absolutely agree with everything you say and could have written this myself. I wrote recently about why I need a holiday, and mostly it was due to being overwhelmed and feeling like I’m constantly behind. As you also mention blogging takes so much time, and even my small linky takes a rediculous amount of time. It’s a bit overwhelming isn’t it? I do love reading all the blogs that link up and have my favourite linkies that I try to join, but as you say it really does grow by the day. I’ve decided my way round is to link to some every other week and only a few every week… Oh and not to stress! And, to find a better way to schedule posts… #bloggerclubuk

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    1. Yes it’s just juggling our already stretched out time. It’s just pure craziness sometimes. And now I have entered the works of YouTube to add something else to my plate! But I just love new avenues πŸ˜‰ Thanks for popping over!

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  27. I miss linkies other than my own and choosing which blogs to read. I am grateful for every blogger who takes the time to support #fartglitter but it has meant that now I almost never link and struggle to find time to post too. Will do my best to let go of the guilt as you say though πŸ™‚

    #fartglitter

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  28. I know what you mean about linky guilt, I get it of I don’t comment on enough posts though. I always comment on the amount stated in the linky rules but always feel like I need to do more, support my fellow bloggers as much as possible. I couldn’t imagine running a linky, it seems like so much work. I think a break every now and then never hurt anyone xx #Fartglitter

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    1. It is a lot of work and I sometimes feel like throwing in the towel and just getting back to the basics but then I remember it’s also fun to read my fellow bloggers who link up. So for now I just blog when I can and try not to stress about it. It all gets done in the end. Thanks for popping over!

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    1. I have just learned that I can’t link to every linky every week. And lately my life has just been so busy that I don’t know if I’m coming or going. Hopefully in the next week I will be able to catch up, do some writing, and get ready for our first summer vacation.

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  29. I need to join your linky!! This has reminded me. It’s really difficult I have a few that I try to do each week but it does take a lot of time. People always think that when you blog you spend a lot of time writing your posts but for me the time consuming part is reading and commenting on other posts. As you say I love it and have discovered great people and read so many brilliant things but sometimes I can’t fit it in! I definitely need to let go of the guilt when I don’t make it to all the linkies. #fartglitter

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    1. Lately I haven’t had time for blogging at all! End of school year has me all over the place! And honestly I have just been in a bit of a rut with the writing. Oh well, that’s the best thing about blogging it’s always there when you feel like picking it back up again. Thanks for popping over.

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  30. I’ve cut down on my linkies…just can’t do it all. Feel bad linking up and not commenting so have to! My linky doesn’t get as many links now and me and my co-host just can’t plough loads of time in…as you said life gets in the way and really it’s not in the way…it’s what we are here for! Great post #fartglitter

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  31. I totally agree. I link when I can, sometimes I link a lot and sometimes not at all. I run a linky myself so know how much work it is. And just like you I understand that people have lives away from blogging so don’t mind if they don’t link every week. Good for you letting go of the linky guilt, I think I’ll do that too. πŸ™‚
    #fartglitter

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    1. I’m working on letting go of the blogging guilt next. I really started blogging as a hobby to just write and have fun. Sometimes you have to take a step back and remember that it should be fun…not stressful. Thanks for popping over and for the share on Facebook :))

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  32. I do read all the posts linked up to my linky but don’t have the time to scan through the ones linked up in the other link ups! Isn’t is why the host highlights the most interesting ones as features? πŸ˜‰

    Like I’m here from Talya’s link u featuring you ! πŸ™‚

    xx

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    1. Yes, linkys are a lot of work to run and some days I feel like throwing in the towel and getting back to blogging basics. Not to mention my summer is packed full of activities and not much wifi. Thanks for popping over and saying hello πŸ˜‰

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  33. Love this post. You said EXACTLY what is on all our minds… yes often life gets in the way and it’s essential to take “time out”.
    Fab job u managing a blog, a linky AND 5 kids!!!:)

    #coolmumclub

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  34. Ah…this puts me in mind of the guilty blogger confessions I did! Yes yes yes! This is such a great post Trista and I’m so relieved to see those words about Momsters Link. I have such difficulty commenting on the posts I join Monday to Wednesday that I barely join any after that! Going to feature this on #BlogStars xx

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    1. I feel honored! Yes there’s just so many linkys anymore that I have chosen the few I do and try to just stick to them. Running mine by myself is a lot of work and my writing has been slacking and now I’m on a 2 week vacation so I’m really falling behind here. But I refuse to stress about it as I will catch up like I always do. Thanks for popping over love :-*

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  35. Absolutely; I feel like this all the time. I have some linkups that I love and I always feel bad if I dont link up that week. But sometimes life gets in the way xxx

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  36. Oh yes! i have also let go of the linky guilt, especially now that summer is here and I hate being stuck indoors all day from commenting on things. Not that Conner would let me either way. Way too much energy that kid and if I don’t keep him busy, he gets bored and then shit hits the fan, LOL! Plus, now that I have started my YouTube channel and have been trying to find time to write my first e-book (I’ve been slacking on that) among other things, I just let it go! So glad I’m not the only one:)

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    1. I love linkys. But I just let go of feeling the need to link to all of them. I just can’t and run my own and write and live life. I feel bad enough for being on the computer for the past two days and forcing my 3 littles to entertain themselves. Which they are usually pretty good at. My friend is bringing her daughter who my kids all adore so I just keep reminding them that friends are coming and then we will do lots of fun stuff if they just let mommy have a few days to get some stuff done. Sometimes it works and sometimes not.

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