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Quote Of The Week ~ Aug 5, 2016

This has been a very emotional week.  Not only did we put our oldest son Bryan on a plane yesterday to embark on his next chapter of life, joining the Army, but my husband also lost a niece to suicide.

She felt that what people were saying about her on social media was more important than her own precious life.

She felt that taking her own life was the only answer and has only created more heartache than any parent should ever have to endure.

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There has been a GO FUND ME account set up for funeral costs which is located here.

Hug your kids, tell them you love them, and start teaching them that what people say or think about them DOESN’T MATTER!  Teach them to love themselves and have confidence.

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54 thoughts on “Quote Of The Week ~ Aug 5, 2016”

  1. Very sorry for your loss. What an emotional week for you and your family. I will keep you in my thoughts. I am trying this linking thing for the first time so I hope I do it correctly and don’t get called out…Ill probably cry if that happens, plz be gentle. 😉

    So I comment, subscribed and shared your post because that is the only one I can find.

    Am I on the right track?

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    1. Yes. The linky has another 2 hours before it will allow you to enter your link. You then link…if you are right after me then you are good. If there is someone linked before you then share there’s and comment on one other. No worries, because you are new I will give you time to get the hang of it. Honestly as long as you don’t link and run and never come back to at least comment and share one other post is what creates a problem.

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  2. Oh Trista. I am so so sorry to hear this. Such devastating news for you and your family. Sending my deepest sympathies…And what an emotional event for you saying goodbye to your boy to join the Army. You must be so proud too. Thank you for hosting despite all that is going on. X #momsterslink

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    1. Thank you Rebecca…appreciate the kind words. I’ve wanted to write something more in depth but out of respect for family I will wait for the dust and grief to settle. As for our son it was a bittersweet moment. So proud but not easy for any parent to watch their child become a soldier. Thanks so much for taking the time to link with me :))

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  3. Oh gosh I am so, so sorry to hear this, how utterly tragic and my thoughts are with you and your family. I found out this week that a neighbour from where I grew up had commited suicide this week, only aged 32 with his whole life ahead of him and a child to live for. Suicide is just so hard to comprehend isn’t it, and although I have been to some very dark places there has always been something that has pulled me back. I will never understand the strength that it takes to actually go ahead and end your suffering, and yet I am always grateful of the strength that I found to go on living. #momsterslink

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    1. Beautifully said. And thank you for your kind words. It’s tragic that it seems to be becoming an epidemic among young girls these days. Like what are we, as a society doing to our youth. Or not doing. I can only hope to raise my kids with confidence and kindness and to always remember that more people love them than don’t. Thanks for linking up lovely. And I’m so glad you find the strength to keep going.

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  4. I am so sorry to hear that. I lost someone in my family ho killed himself and there is only a part of you that feels guilty… Lots of love xxx #momsterslink

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  5. I am so deeply sorry to hear your very tragic loss.
    You speak words of wisdom.
    I shall certainly be reinforcing your message to my girls.
    Congrats on your son taking charge of his own destiny, proudmomster.com
    Xxxx

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  6. Oh wow Trista, this is kind of mirroring my relationship with my own niece, who is sixteen. She’s already attempted suicide several times though it wasn’t due to friends but what some of the family thought, which in my book, is so much worse for a child. However, teens are deeply invested in their friends and their peers in general and my niece definitely cares way too much about what other people think. I am so sorry your are going through this. I tell my niece all the time not to care what others think. It was so different for us wasn’t it? I mean, for me anyway, I cared what my peers thought but not to the point where any of it actually mattered. My niece is totally different. I will definitely be giving my own boys hugs and I will be calling my niece tonight. You’re in my thoughts Trista! #momsterlink

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    1. Thank you so much Michelle. I had actually only met the lovely girl once as her mother and my husband have been estranged for quite some time but it still doesn’t make the story any less tragic. Youth these days are so troubled and cruel. Like you, I never cared much what people thought of me when I was younger and I surely don’t care now days. I just think people need to practice confidence and more kindness. I can’t even begin to say how much I’ve thought and said that in the past several weeks.

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      1. Yeah. I do work hard to instill that in my boys. I do think social media makes it harder for kids these days but we parents also have to do our due diligence in teaching our kids to love themselves and not care what others think. Again, I am thinking of you today and I am so sorry for your loss.

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  7. I am so sorry, that pain never goes away. We are all vulnerable to bullies, and there are many damaged people out there who feel the need to lash out. The anonymity of the internet makes it easy.
    Teach your kids that it is usually best to not respond to cyberbullies, but if they do point out the bully’s behavior, never defend their own. Nothing will shut a bully down faster than pointing the spotlight on them and putting them on the defensive. So a comment like “I can’t understand why you needed to be so mean.” will sometimes work. Hope your weekend is better, take some time for you.

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    1. I know there’s no way to keep social media out of our lives as it’s just something that we all enjoy. My youngest 3 of course only watch cartoons still but my teenager is on several social media but so far we haven’t had an issue with him. He’s 16 and has learned how to stay in his group of friends he plays sports with. I think it’s important to keep youth busy. Sports, school, work, and family time. It’s usually the ones who don’t have that who turn out being the bullies. Thanks for your kind words and I do plan to take some time for me this weekend as my hubby is working.

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    1. I try to teach my kids to always be kind but if they find them in a position that they have to protect themselves then I stand behind their decision of what they feel they need to do. I also try to teach them that life isn’t always going to be easy.

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  8. Oh, I am so, so sorry. I know firsthand how brutal people can be online. I’ll keep your family in my prayers. And I hope your son enjoys boot camp (although with the loss of his cousin, he’s off to a rough start). Take care. #momsterslink

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      1. I hear you. I was bawling. Before he left I was constantly telling him to stop putting his flannels on the bookshelf in our dining room everyday. It annoyed the heck out of me. After he left, I noticed his shirt on the bookshelf, and I told everyone not to touch it because I wanted it there as a reminder of him. That shirt stayed there until he came home for Christmas. Jeez, I’m tearing up as I’m typing this. I also couldn’t watch Toy Story 3 for the longest time because I would break down at the end when Andy gives his toys to the little girl because he’s all grown up and is leaving. I don’t think we realize just how quickly our kids grow up. Anyway, you’ll get through this. You’re going to be fine, and so is he!

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      2. I love that movie and it gets me every time at the end too. I know that all mine will grow up and move on and I will have done my job but it doesn’t make it any easier. I still have little ones and a teenager at home but man are they growing fast.

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  9. Oh my goodness Trista, I am so very sorry for your loss and can’t begin to imagine what your family are going through. It’s terrifying what a hold social media has on us and how it can influence a young person in such a devastating way. Love to you and your family xx
    #momsterslink

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    1. Thank you Dawn. My husband hasn’t been very close to the girls mother and I only met her one time about 6 years ago but I remember her being smart and beautiful. Like I had a sense that she was going to do something with herself. Youth can be so cruel to one another but I can’t say some adults are any better. The world is a cruel place and it’s sad that we have to teach our kids to prepare for that cruelty. Thank you for your kind words Dawn. And of course for linking with me. :))

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  10. I couldn’t even imagine having to do this for a start but then having this shocking your family must be unbearable. I agree, i think that social media plays a bit part in young peoples lives now, and we are only just seeing the impact of that, one generation on. #momsterslink

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    1. It saddens me that today’s youth are not only cruel but some parents are just checked out from teaching them self value. I see or read something about it everyday. So as a parent I want to teach my kids (especially my girls) to be strong, confident, and to remember that the people they meet in junior high and high school is only a tiny fraction of what their life has in store for them. That things are bigger and greater and that someday they will look back and laugh at those bullies. The bullies I had to deal with are nobody’s today.

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  11. Oh I’m so sorry. I can’t even begin to imagine how her family, but particularly her parents are feeling. Social media has such influence over kids today. It scares me that my daughter will be exposed to it when she gets older. So sad.

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    1. I have a teenager whose 16 right now and 3 little ones coming up. The 16 year old says girls at school are just so dramatic over everything. It’s because I know that there are so many parents around here that give into them leaving them feeling entitled to everything and so when someone comes along that doesn’t live like that “standard” they somehow think it’s ok to pick on that person. I teach my kids to ALWAYS be kind ..even to the kids with disabilities ….to help them and give them positive reinforcement but I also let them know that sometimes there’s going to be bad kids and to simply kill em with kindness unless of course they physically lay their hands on my kids then they know mommy has said they have every right to defend themselves. I was bullied in High School and those bullies turned out to be nobody’s and that’s what I tell them too.

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      1. That sounds like perfect guidance. I’m hoping that as my daughter grows up we’ll have open communication both ways and she’ll feel she can come to me and discuss anything at all. I’m sure that’s a much easier idea in theory than in practice though!

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    1. Thank you for your kind words. It was quite a shocker about his niece and it just makes me realize what am epidemic amongst young people we really have going on these days. As for my son, we are so very proud that he has chose to do something positive with his life but at the same time you hope it turns out to be a positive experience and not a negative one. I couldn’t imagine being married to someone in the military…that would be hard. Not so much for me but for my kids. My husband worked out of town for 3 years when my kids were younger and it was always so hard when he had to leave. That’s the reason I finally agreed to move.

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  12. Sorry for your loss. Iv connected with you on Twitter and was going through your page and this post really caught my attention. It’s always a sad say when someone thinks the world will be better off without them. Im sorry to hear your family had to go through this.

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