I was contacted by Crystal at Baby Follow to host a guest post about having 3 kids. And since I have 3 kids and can relate to a lot of this I was of course delighted to have her.
Take it away Crystal…
10 Things You Should Know Before Having 3 Kids
Three kids seem to be the perfect number for most couples ñ small enough to keep it manageable but big enough to keep family outings interesting. After Iíve become a mother to 3 kids however, I realized that having 3 of them is NOTHING like having just 2.
Donít get me wrong ñ all my kids are well-loved and cared for! Still, it can be quite shocking to find yourself having 3 little troopers in the house, all under the age of 7! If youíve recently got a 3rd child or planning to have a 3rd one, hereís one housewife advice to another.
1. Sexy Time
Sex pretty much dries up or must be planned like a military operation because for some reason, the kids never synchronize their absence. At least one is always in the house, needs attention, needs food, crying for water, or needs to have monsters in the closet shooed away. Even if youíve got time at night, youíre pretty much too tired to do anything with the hubby.
2. Invest on Distractions
Itís time to get the good baby swing! Thereís nothing quite like a good distraction that lets you do all those little things you used to take for granted ñ like going to the bathroom. It is essential to get the good baby swing as it distracts your youngest and lulls him to sleep quickly. Iíve figured out that once my youngest goes to sleep, the other two are easier to manage.
3. Quiet is Suspicious
Need I say more? Noise is practically a signal of normality in the household. Once everything goes quiet, itís a sure sign that something is wrong.
4. It Takes a Village
With two kids, I was still Supermom. I could handle my two boys without asking for help. With the 3rd however, Iíve accepted the ìit takes a villageî adage and called for help, usually from the grandparents.
5. Mess is Endless
Even as you pick something up, something new gets thrown on the floor. The mess never really ends with 3 kids ñ and this includes the laundry! Iíve basically placed a huge box on the living room and told my kids to throw anything in there so I can sort them out later and the floor stays clean!
6. Zumba and Other Exercises
As a stay at home parent, most of my exercises are done through the television. Thatís not possible anymore with 3 active kids. On the plus side, you can get more physical workout just running after your toddlers ñ but this is an all day job! For some reason, theyíre on a schedule when it comes to energy source so that when one is recuperating their energy, the other one is at full speed. A postpartum girdle is a best choice if youíre feeling a bit of strain along your belly area, especially if youíve had a C-section. Wearing this actually helped me get my shape back!
7. Nothing is Constant
What worked for my first two doesnít seem to work with the 3rd when it comes to sleeping time, eating, and play. Hence, I had to change strategies ñ which are a lot like being a brand new parent all over again! Take nothing for granted and be ready to adapt!
8. Helicopter Parenting
With one or even two kids, you could be more involved. For example, Iíd actually help my little girl and boy to pick out their clothes for the day and help them in it. With the 3rd however, Iíve switched to helicopter parenting. It basically means hovering where I simply go check to see if theyíve done what theyíre supposed to do and move on. Although you might want to be involved in every step of their daily life ñ it just becomes impossible!
9. Teach Early
With two kids, my husbandís strategy was divide and conquerí as each of use gets a kid. With the arrival of the 3rd however, this strategy no longer works. I dread the day when our youngest would be able to walk and therefore ñ run. This is why as early as 2, weíve been teaching our middle child how to act and respond when weíre in public in the hope that self-discipline will work its magic.
10. Yes ñ You Will
Lastly, accept that youíre going to mess up ñ itís part of being a parent to 3 active children! Just keep in mind that pretty soon, your kids are going to turn into teens so itís best to relish these moments while you can.
Of course, those are just few of the skills new parents need to learn how to care for their kids. Remember: adapt as you go because no two kids are ever the same, but youíll love them anyway!
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