Even though my son is now almost 7 years old, it is still a frequent discussion between my husband and I why I made the decision to circumcise our son. My husband believes that there is no reason for males to be circumcised and I felt that I didn’t want him growing up having to deal with society’s idea of what most penises look like.
I remember the day like it was yesterday. Since my husband was against circumcision (he is circumcised but says he was never given a choice) he refused to go with me. This was my first baby and here I was going to a life changing doctor’s appointment all by myself.
I sat in the examining room going through my head a hundred times and wondering if I was making the right decision. Honestly I made the decision to have my son circumcised based solely on the fact that society has decided on this procedure to be completely normal and is no longer based on religion or faith but that of cosmetics.
As a woman, I have seen both types of penises and have talked to various other women who have as well. And the sad fact is that the majority of women prefer a circumcised penis over that of one that is not. According to the popular adult store, Adam & Eve, over 54% of women prefer a circumcised penis. But I also found in my research that circumcision rates increased from 48% during 1988–1991 to 61% during 1997–2000 but declined to 56% in 2008 according to the CDC. The results from the Adam & Eve survey were done in 2014.
They took my son into another room to do the procedure while I waited in the examination room. It seemed like hours passed when finally they brought him in. The doctor removed his diaper to show me what he had done and to say what I saw was anything short of horrific,is an understatement. No one had prepared me for the dark red flesh that was now at the end of my little baby boy’s penis. I felt like a horrible mother and began uncontrollably crying. To the point that the doctor had me sit down and relax before going over the after care with me, or even giving me back my baby.
The doctor explained the after care to me and I hung on every word that escaped from that man’s mouth. They told me I could stay in the room as long as I needed until I felt comfortable enough to leave. I remember just sitting there nursing him until finally he was sound asleep.
I gathered up our things and left the hospital. But as soon as I got him safely loaded into the car (still sleeping) I sat in the parking lot and cried and continued to cry all the way home. Questioning myself over and over again if I had done the right thing.
I never did any kind of research before the procedure but I made sure to follow the doctors instructions thoroughly. As each day passed the wound began to heal and quite honestly I thankfully never had any problems and my son never showed any signs of discomfort as described in this article I came across in doing some research for this post. Had I have read that article before making my own decision, I probably would have decided differently.
But then I found a more recent article which you can read here that makes me feel as if I did make the right decision. I would never want my son to feel like, I am sure some of the men who are talked about in this article, must have felt. Not to mention I wouldn’t want to be having to constantly be telling him, let alone showing him, how to pull the foreskin back and clean it. Let’s face it, children (especially boys) don’t care much about their hygiene until far into their teen years when usually they get their first real girlfriend. The CDC has also stated that several types of research have documented that male circumcision significantly reduces the risk of men contracting HIV through penile-vaginal sex.
In all honesty, as a parent, I think it is a personal choice unless of course it falls under your religion or faith. But I would like to hear from the women out there what their views are…my main question being…
Do you prefer a man who is circumcised or uncircumcised? And if you feel like it, please do explain.