My Decision To Circumcise 

Even though my son is now almost 7 years old,  it is still a frequent discussion between my husband and I why I made the decision to circumcise our son.  My husband believes that there is no reason for males to be circumcised and I felt that I didn’t want him growing up having to deal with society’s idea of what most penises look like.

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I remember the day like it was yesterday.  Since my husband was against circumcision (he is circumcised but says he was never given a choice) he refused to go with me.  This was my first baby and here I was going to a life changing doctor’s appointment all by myself.

I sat in the examining room going through my head a hundred times and wondering if I was making the right decision.  Honestly I made the decision to have my son circumcised based solely on the fact that society has decided on this procedure to be completely normal and is no longer based on religion or faith but that of cosmetics.

As a woman, I have seen both types of penises and have talked to various other women who have as well.  And the sad fact is that the majority of women prefer a circumcised penis over that of one that is not.  According to the popular adult store, Adam & Eve, over 54% of women prefer a circumcised penis.  But I also found in my research that circumcision rates increased from 48% during 1988–1991 to 61% during 1997–2000 but declined to 56% in 2008 according to the CDC.  The results from the Adam & Eve survey were done in 2014.

They took my son into another room to do the procedure while I waited in the examination room.  It seemed like hours passed when finally they brought him in.  The doctor removed his diaper to show me what he had done and to say what I saw was anything short of horrific,is an understatement.  No one had prepared me for the dark red flesh that was now at the end of my little baby boy’s penis.  I felt like a horrible mother and began uncontrollably crying.  To the point that the doctor had me sit down and relax before going over the after care with me, or even giving me back my baby.

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I finally pulled myself together because I wanted nothing more than to hold and soothe my crying little boy.  The moment he was in my arms I felt a wave of relief come over me.

The doctor explained the after care to me and I hung on every word that escaped from that man’s mouth.  They told me I could stay in the room as long as I needed until I felt comfortable enough to leave.  I remember just sitting there nursing him until finally he was sound asleep.

I gathered up our things and left the hospital.  But as soon as I got him safely loaded into the car (still sleeping) I sat in the parking lot and cried and continued to cry all the way home.  Questioning myself over and over again if I had done the right thing.

I never did any kind of research before the procedure but I made sure to follow the doctors instructions thoroughly.  As each day passed the wound began to heal and quite honestly I thankfully never had any problems and my son never showed any signs of discomfort as described in this article I came across in doing some research for this post.  Had I have read that article before making my own decision, I probably would have decided differently.

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But then I found a more recent article which you can read here that makes me feel as if I did make the right decision.  I would never want my son to feel like, I am sure some of the men who are talked about in this article, must have felt.  Not to mention I wouldn’t want to be having to constantly be telling him, let alone showing him, how to pull the foreskin back and clean it.  Let’s face it, children (especially boys) don’t care much about their hygiene until far into their teen years when usually they get their first real girlfriend.  The CDC has also stated that several types of research have documented that male circumcision significantly reduces the risk of men contracting HIV through penile-vaginal sex.

In all honesty, as a parent, I think it is a personal choice unless of course it falls under your religion or faith.   But I would like to hear from the women out there what their views are…my main question being…

Do you prefer a man who is circumcised or uncircumcised?   And if you feel like it, please do explain.

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Momsterslink ~Nov 3, 2016

Hello everyone and welcome to another fabulous weekend of #momsterslink.

It has been such a busy fall for me so far and I can’t believe that November is already here. I still have not been able to catch up on a lot of my blogging and am not sure if I am going to so will be just starting fresh from here and doing what I can when I can.

This week I would like to welcome the lovely Laura from Five Little Doves as my guest hostess.  We will both be running the linky this week and one of us will comment and share all the posts linked up.  So please give a big welcome to Laura, her blog is wonderful so if you haven’t had a chance to read it, now you will, and I guarantee fall in love with her writing.

I would also like to give a HUGE THANK YOU to Miss Heather at Shank You Very Much for running the linky solely by herself for a couple times.  She is truly a lifesaver!

The top three most read posts from the October 20th #momsterslink are as follows:

1st place goes to Baby Gates Down with ~

2016 Vampire A To D

2nd place goes to Daily Dump with ~

Survival Of The Fittest

3rd place goes to Mummy Tries with ~

I Will Not Apologize For Being A Strong Woman

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I Am The Mother Of A Soldier

Never did I think that I would hear those words escape from my mouth but the truth is, I am officially the mother of a soldier.

I had the honor of attending my oldest son’s graduation from basic training  in Fort Leonard Wood, MO.  And I must say that it will be one of the fondest memories I possess in my life.

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As a parent we raise our children in hopes that they will be successful, but for a mother of a soldier it’s just a bit of a catch 22 for me.  As proud as I am of him, we also live in a world of uncertainty right now.

I took my seat that morning and watched as each group of these young men and women marched their way to the stage and one by one called off their names and where they were from.  And when my child came forth, I barely recognized him.  He was all grown up.  He had already changed.

I thought about all their family and friends in the audience who were watching and wondering if they were all having the same feelings as me.  The feelings of pride, joy, love, fear, understanding, and of course uncertainty.  If their whirl wind of emotions, were blowing in the same direction as mine.

I sat across from my son, dressed in his Army issued tailored blues, made just for him.  And I couldn’t help but think that just yesterday he was this 10 year old little boy, with no thoughts of where he would be sitting on this very day across from me.

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I thought about the past year and a half and what he has overcome.  That he made some bad choices but made some self discovery along the way and in the end chose the right path.

I thought about the last time I saw him and how many things were said between us.  A conversation that hasn’t been finished.

I also thought about my 4 other children, who are all growing up so fast, and that as soon as I blink my eyes, this person sitting across from me, will be my 4 year old.  All grown up and no longer needing my undivided attention and me knowing that I did my best to give her and all of her siblings the love, life skills, and childhood memories that will give them the best wings to fly.  To know that I tried to be the best mother I could…even when some days mothering required every ounce of me that I had.

Watching this ceremony and hearing of my son’s stories of his journey so far, gave me a new found respect for these young men and women who take an oath to protect and serve their country.  To protect some of the freedoms that so many of us take for granted.  To sign on a dotted line not knowing the unpredictability that lies ahead.

Basically giving up their freedom…to ensure ours.

The last night I was there, I walked my son up the sidewalk near his barracks.  I promised I wouldn’t cry.  I promised that I would be strong and send him on his way.   I hugged him tight, told him I loved him, and then as soon as I turned to head toward’s the car all those tears poured out.

I hadn’t cried like that in a long time.

But it wasn’t just because I am the mother of a soldier, it’s because I am a mother, and for the first time since becoming a mother, I had a taste of what it was like to let go, and that before long, I would have to let go of all of them.

To Bryan,

I know your blood doesn’t share my blood but I will always think of you as my son.  There are so many things that you won’t understand until you have children of your own.  

I hope you know how proud your dad and I are of the person you have become.  That you chose to be a better person, even with so many odds against you.

I hope you understand how much we love you.  And how much we never stopped loving you…even when you weren’t making the best of choices.

I hope you understand the reasons of why we had to make some of the choices we made.  I don’t regret those choices…especially if it gave you the will to prove you could make it.  That you could be a better person even with the hand of cards you had been dealt.

I hope you will always know…this is your home.

Love,

Mom

PS:  Never lose sight of the boy on the left.  He’s formed the man on the right.

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Momsterslink ~ October 27th, 2016

Hello everyone!  I will not be running #momsterslink this week as I have been out of town all week for my sons graduation from the Army and haven’t had time to get it ready.

I will have lots to write about though and will return next week!

Hope everyone has a blissful day!

Momsterslink ~ October 20, 2016

Hello everyone and welcome to another fabulous weekend of #momsterslink.  I want to thank those of you who have stuck with me and continue to link up.

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Due to my overwhelming schedule I have not had any time for blogging.  Guess you could say I have taken a little break but hopefully since this is the last week of soccer and football I will be able to get back into it…at least until wrestling starts.  I must apologize to those of you who I have not gotten around to commenting or sharing from Sept 15, Sept 22, and Sept 29.

I haven’t had time to read or even write anything lately.  As a matter of fact I am not even linking a post this week as I am way behind on replying to comments on my own blog. 

With all this being said I am once again going to have Heather over at Shank You Very Much hostess this weeks #momsterslink.

She really enjoys doing it and I feel she did a great job last time. I don’t want the linky to end so I appreciate her helping me out.  THANK YOU HEATHER! YOU ARE A LIFESAVER.

So just click here and happy linking!

Momsterslink ~ October 13, 2016

Hello my fellow linkers….I am sad to say that there will be no #momsterslink today. **makes sad face**

I have had a lot going on and blogging is going to have to be put on hold for the moment.

I hope to return at sometime next week.

Thanks for your understanding and a huge THANK YOU to Heather over at Shank You Very Much for hostessing for me last week!

Until We Meet Again,

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Momsterslink ~ October 6, 2016

Hello all my fabulous peeps.  This week I am having my first ever guest host Heather at “Shank You Very Much” for this weeks #momsterslink.  I have great faith that she will do an awesome job as she has been a loyal linker for quite some time now.  I have a lot of catching up to do and will be back next week!!!  And as I said before if you are interested in being a guest host please email me at domesticatedmomster@gmail.com.  It’s a great way to get a taste in case you have thought about hosting your own linky.

I am linking up a post this week, but you only need to comment on Heather’s post and mine only if you wish 💋💨❤️

So without further adieu just click here.