7 Tips That Make Life As A Mom That Little Bit Easier

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Being a mom really is everything it’s cracked up to be. It’s amazing and changes a woman’s life in countless ways. Despite all the beauty of it, though, being a mom is incredibly hard. Here are 7 tips that will make life as a mom a little bit easier.

1. Resist the urge to go it alone.‚Ä®

Total self-sufficiency is the motherhood kiss of death. Raising kids is hard, exhausting work. If you’re co-parenting, make sure your partner is doing their fair share. If you’re a single mother, you need to have a network of support. Whether you’re a single mother or half of a parenting dream team, you need to say yes to offers for outside help and you need to specifically ask for help. Family members and friends are usually eager to help out. It takes a village, and if you try to go it alone, you’ll end up permanently exhausted and unhappy.

2. Forget about perfect.‚Ä®

Forget the dreams you had about motherhood. Forget the Pinterest boards full of amazing kid ideas. Forget the images of perfect lives you see from other moms on social media. Lots of days of being a mom will be perfect, full of that incomparable joy you felt the first time you held your baby. But plenty of days will also be hard and messy and not at all perfect. Throw the idea of perfect out the window and you’ll learn to appreciate the magic packed into all those messy days. Stop giving yourself a hard time for failing to live up to those Pinterest boards and celebrity mom Instagram posts. Those are staged glimpses at ideal moments. They’re occasionally achievable, but that’s only one little piece of the picture. Reality, in all its messy glory, is its own kind of perfection.

3. Every age is the best.

Don’t approach your kid’s childhood as groups of fun ages and ages to dread. Forget about the terrible twos and the terrible tweens. Even forget about the magic of babyhood or the delight of having school-age children. Every single age of a child is amazing and special in its own way. Every age is also hard in its own way. The cliche is true: it all goes by so fast. Find something to love and cherish about each age. Don’t miss the magic of right now because you’re living in the past or the future.

4. Remember that mom stuff can be cute and stylish.

Being a mom means owning and hauling around all kinds of things for your kids. Just because it’s for a practical purpose, though, doesn’t mean it has to be ugly! Choose products that fit your sense of style, products that make you smile, products that will make you the envy of all the other moms. Choose a¬†cute diaper bag¬†and you’ll be prepared to keep your baby clean and happy when you’re out and about, but you’ll also feel happy yourself for rocking some sweet baby swag. Shopping for kid stuff can have the same joy as shopping for shoes or handbags when you realize that kid stuff can be cute and fashionable.



5. Remember that being a mom is just one part of who you are.


Motherhood is amazing and can be all-consuming. It’s all too easy to let it completely take over your identity. Remember that there are other parts of you, too. You’re still a partner, child, sibling, career-woman, painter, yogi, churchgoer, sports fan, or whatever else makes you uniquely you. Be a mom, but not a mom to the exclusion of everything else. Take time for yourself. You’ll be happier, but as a bonus, your child will learn a pretty important lesson in seeing you do this.

6. Watch out for clutter.
Having kids means having a lot of extra stuff.

A lot of it is vital and a lot of it is imbued with all kinds of special memories, but a lot of it is clutter. Get in the habit of clearing out what you don’t need regularly or you’ll eventually be looking at a mountain of crap. Go through your kid’s clothing and toy collection and find a new home (donate, give away, sell, trash) for anything you no longer need. Kid art is particularly hard to part with, but you will amass a lot of it very quickly. Save the most special pieces and scan all the rest. You’ll still be able to look back at that scribbled drawing from age 2 and that self-portrait from age 5, but you won’t have to dig through 10 overstuffed bins of artwork to find it. You might even implement a rule that for every new item that comes in the house, one must go out. New toy in, old toy out. Decluttering kid things can get trickier as your child gets older, but it’s another great teaching moment. Involve your kid in the decision-making process for what stays and what goes and it will be less traumatic.

Children are hilarious and parenting is full of hysterical moments. Don’t forget to laugh. Laugh often and take the time to record some of the funniest stories. Keep a journal where you write down all the cute things your kid says or does and mark the date. Whether handwritten or digital, this will be a favorite thing to look back on for many years to come. You will not regret doing this. You might think that you’ll remember all of these moments, but you won’t. Sure, you’ll remember many of them, but a lot of gold will slip through the cracks of your memory. As your kids get older, they’ll love it as well and you can belly laugh about it together. Of course, some of the stories you’ve recorded are sure to be embarrassing to your kids as they get older, but sometimes that makes it even more fun.

Disclaimer:  This post was sent to me as a guest post and none of these words are that of my own.

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10 Things You Should Know Before Having 3 Kids ~ Guest Post

I was contacted by Crystal at Baby Follow  to host a guest post about having 3 kids.  And since I have 3 kids and can relate to a lot of this I was of course delighted to have her.

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10 Things You Should Know Before Having 3 Kids

 

Three kids seem to be the perfect number for most couples √Ī small enough to keep it manageable but big enough to keep family outings interesting. After I√≠ve become a mother to 3 kids however, I realized that having 3 of them is NOTHING like having just 2.

Don√≠t get me wrong √Ī all my kids are well-loved and cared for! Still, it can be quite shocking to find yourself having 3 little troopers in the house, all under the age of 7! If you√≠ve recently got a 3rd child or planning to have a 3rd one, here√≠s one housewife advice to another.

1. Sexy Time

Sex pretty much dries up or must be planned like a military operation because for some reason, the kids never synchronize their absence. At least one is always in the house, needs attention, needs food, crying for water, or needs to have monsters in the closet shooed away. Even if youíve got time at night, youíre pretty much too tired to do anything with the hubby.

2. Invest on Distractions

It√≠s time to get the good baby swing! There√≠s nothing quite like a good distraction that lets you do all those little things you used to take for granted √Ī like going to the bathroom. It is essential to get the good baby swing as it distracts your youngest and lulls him to sleep quickly. I√≠ve figured out that once my youngest goes to sleep, the other two are easier to manage.

3. Quiet is Suspicious

Need I say more? Noise is practically a signal of normality in the household. Once everything goes quiet, itís a sure sign that something is wrong.

4. It Takes a Village

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With two kids, I was still Supermom. I could handle my two boys without asking for help. With the 3rd however, I√≠ve accepted the √¨it takes a village√ģ adage and called for help, usually from the grandparents.

5. Mess is Endless

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Even as you pick something up, something new gets thrown on the floor. The mess never really ends with 3 kids √Ī and this includes the laundry! I√≠ve basically placed a huge box on the living room and told my kids to throw anything in there so I can sort them out later and the floor stays clean!

6. Zumba and Other Exercises

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As a stay at home parent, most of my exercises are done through the television. That√≠s not possible anymore with 3 active kids. On the plus side, you can get more physical workout just running after your toddlers √Ī but this is an all day job! For some reason, they√≠re on a schedule when it comes to energy source so that when one is recuperating their energy, the other one is at full speed. A postpartum girdle is a best choice if you√≠re feeling a bit of strain along your belly area, especially if you√≠ve had a C-section. Wearing this actually helped me get my shape back!

7. Nothing is Constant

What worked for my first two doesn√≠t seem to work with the 3rd when it comes to sleeping time, eating, and play. Hence, I had to change strategies √Ī which are a lot like being a brand new parent all over again! Take nothing for granted and be ready to adapt!

8. Helicopter Parenting

With one or even two kids, you could be more involved. For example, I√≠d actually help my little girl and boy to pick out their clothes for the day and help them in it. With the 3rd however, I√≠ve switched to helicopter parenting. It basically means hovering where I simply go check to see if they√≠ve done what they√≠re supposed to do and move on. Although you might want to be involved in every step of their daily life √Ī it just becomes impossible!

9. Teach Early

With two kids, my husband√≠s strategy was divide and conquer√≠ as each of use gets a kid. With the arrival of the 3rd however, this strategy no longer works. I dread the day when our youngest would be able to walk and therefore √Ī run. This is why as early as 2, we√≠ve been teaching our middle child how to act and respond when we√≠re in public in the hope that self-discipline will work its magic.

10. Yes √Ī You Will

Lastly, accept that you√≠re going to mess up √Ī it√≠s part of being a parent to 3 active children! Just keep in mind that pretty soon, your kids are going to turn into teens so it√≠s best to relish these moments while you can.

Of course, those are just few of the skills new parents need to learn how to care for their kids. Remember: adapt as you go because no two kids are ever the same, but youíll love them anyway!

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Survival Tools For My Daughters

1. ¬†Never let what other people think, change who you want to be. ((as long as you aren’t ¬†a menace to society then what they have to say, doesn’t matter))

2. ¬†Boys are exactly that…boys…until they are men which usually doesn’t hit them until about 30. ¬†Therefore, regardless how much you “think” you are in love with that boy…if it’s true love, it will wait until you are done becoming an adult and becoming who you want to be without worrying about another human being.

3. ¬†I can’t stress enough to ALWAYS be confident. ¬†Own who you are and be responsible for what you do. ¬†Believe in yourself and be brilliantly in love with yourself. ((keep away from being narcissistic though like your father))

4.  Never wear too much make-up.  Keep it simple and remember that less is more.  Your true beauty is what should always be seen.

5. ¬†Travel. ¬†Do a lot of it before you settle down and have babies. ¬†It’s so much easier to book a trip without having to think about what you are going to do with the little one/ones.

Survival Tools Daughters Parenting 6. ¬†Live your twenties. ¬†They are yours to discover who you are. ¬†And it’s so much easier to do that when you only have yourself to think about. ¬†((remember that I didn’t have you two until I was 38 and 39))

7. ¬†Always lead…never follow. ¬†Set trends. ¬†Be an “individual“.

8. ¬†If you are ever on reality television….don’t get drunk! ¬†This is very important. ¬†Drunk people on reality television look like trash. ¬†And inevitably they will edit it to make you look like the worst… drunk… ever!

9. ¬†Have lots of friends but always remember that it’s best to have a handful of truly great friends then a box full of trolls. ¬†Choose your friends wisely for who you hang out with is a reflection of who you are. ¬†And if you don’t hang out with bad influences then you are less likely to make their same mistakes.

10. I know every girl dreams of this big fancy wedding that costs thousands of dollars but take it from your mother who has been there and done it that it is not what it’s cracked up to be. ¬†The planning is so much stress and it’s over so fast. ¬†I married your father in a drive-thru in Vegas and it meant so much more to me and has lasted the longest. Getting Married Survival Tools Daughters Parenting 11. Get an education. ¬†This probably should have been in the top 3 but I am really not going in any order. ¬†Having a brain and using it is so important. ¬†Study. ¬†Read lots of books. ¬†Do the best you can in school and go as far as you can. ¬†Never stop learning.

12. Please oh please I hope you have great common sense.  Book sense is wonderful but having both is truly a gift.

13. Take care of your “who-ha ¬†You only have one. ¬†Protect it and treat it with above all respect. ¬†Go to the doctor regularly and get it checked. ¬†Keep it trimmed or waxed or if you live in an era or have a man that loves bush ((not the band)) then by all means, lucky you, much less maintenance.

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14.¬†When old enough to attend spring breaks and there are all these girls showing off their ta tas…..don’t be those girls…your ta tas are sacred and should only be seen by yourself and your lover. ¬†Leave things to the imagination and don’t just put it on display. ¬†It’s right up there with respect yourself and others will follow in respecting you.

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15. ¬†When you get pregnant with your first child¬†(after the age of 25 of course)….SLEEP…Take long naps and sleep every time you get a chance. ¬†Don’t take it for granted because once babies get here your sleep never belongs to you again.

16. ¬†If you are having problems growing into adolescence…remember I was there once too….talk to me….please always know that you can talk to me about ANYTHING…I am your mom and I will always love you and want whats best for you.

17. ¬†Never walk in anyone’s shadow for you are the light. ¬†You shine and anyone who is lucky enough to hold your heart should treat you like a goddess.

18. ¬†If you find you are good at something and you love doing it…pursue it with everything you have. ¬†Never stop dreaming. ¬†Never stop achieving. ¬†If something makes you happy then keep doing it. ¬†Even if it only turns out to be a hobby. ¬†Money isn’t everything but it does make things a little less stressful.

19. ¬†Don’t use credit cards. ¬†Unless you are gaining points and can pay them off every month before interest. ¬†And always make sure you get the lowest interest rate possible. ¬†Always pay your savings first. ¬†Saving for retirement is crucial. ¬†I can’t stress it enough. ¬†Your great grandfather was a brilliant man when it came to investing and I wish he was still here so I could pick his brain.

20. ¬†Don’t eat yellow snow….haha I just had to throw that in there for a giggle.

21. ¬†You have 3 older brothers and a very protective father…use this to your advantage when it comes to dating. ¬†Of course according to your father, dating won’t be acceptable until you are 30. ¬†And let’s face it…whoever you choose has very big shoes to fill.

22. ¬†Exercise. ¬†Get in the habit of it. ¬†Healthy body leads to healthy mind. ¬†You don’t need to look like Barbie…that is a delusional f*@ked up idea for how a woman should look. ¬†Exercise to be healthy and beat all the health history you are already going to be faced with. ¬†Diabetes, heart disease, high blood pressure…all run in your bloodline.

23. ¬†Don’t do drugs. ¬†This is an obvious one but needs to be said. ¬†Addiction ruins lives. ¬†It’s better to “just say no” from the get go…regardless of how much you “think” you can handle it.

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24. ¬†Remember that character isn’t about what material things you have or how popular you are…character is about how you treat people and how you carry yourself. ¬†Be nice to those who deserve it and for those who don’t ….just tell them to fuck off. ¬†I know this is a contradicting statement but there are going to be people in life who will try to bring you down…don’t let them. Stand up for yourself. ¬†Speak your mind.

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25. ¬† High School will be a place where you think that everything that happens is so important…let me just tell you there is so much more important life after high school.

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