Quote Of The Week ~ November 8, 2016

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I truly believe that we all carry skeletons in our closet.  Stories that we will most likely take to our graves.  Secrets that are only shared within ourselves.

I have learned a lot about this quote in the past year.  I have been working on my inner self and trying to discover the moments of my life that I have spent a lifetime suppressing.

And for me, there are some stories I just might choose never to share with the world.

My chapters.

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Quote Of The Week ~ Aug 5, 2016

This has been a very emotional week.  Not only did we put our oldest son Bryan on a plane yesterday to embark on his next chapter of life, joining the Army, but my husband also lost a niece to suicide.

She felt that what people were saying about her on social media was more important than her own precious life.

She felt that taking her own life was the only answer and has only created more heartache than any parent should ever have to endure.

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There has been a GO FUND ME account set up for funeral costs which is located here.

Hug your kids, tell them you love them, and start teaching them that what people say or think about them DOESN’T MATTER!  Teach them to love themselves and have confidence.

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Letting Go OF The Linky Guilt

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There are so many linkys now days and I am here to finally say that I just don’t have enough time to always link up with every one of them.  I link when I can, when I have something worthy of linking up, and when I know that I have time for the commenting.  When I get behind in the commenting I have to put linking aside all together.

As a blogger who also runs her own linky, I am ALWAYS reading, commenting, and sharing  on almost every blog post I read.  Sometimes to the point that I don’t even have time to write or read anything besides those blogs.

And I love to read.

And I love to write.

And I love blogging.

I have a gazillion things to write about but I just haven’t had the time to write about them. There’s 24 drafts in my draft folder right now.  What does that tell you?

I have 2 T-ball games, dance classes, T-ball party, awards ceremony, Memorial Day glamping, two graduations, hair and car appts in the city, dress rehearsals, a dance recital and then preparing for our first big summer vacation…all in the next 3 weeks.  I am sure I am missing something in there.


So yes, this is indeed why I have decided that I must let go of the linky guilt.  Even the blogging guilt.  That’s the great thing about this being my blog…I can do what I want to with it.

Same goes for those of you who sometimes may not have time to link with #momsterslink.  I indeed understand and don’t take it personally.  As long as I see you all linked up from time to time I am happy.

We are all busy not only with blogging but with home, kids, spouses…LIFE!


Linkys are a lot of work to run.  For those of you considering starting one, I would suggest that you understand that most of your blog reading will be done reading the blogs that link up.  And if your linky is successful it will become harder to have time to write and network.

I have tried putting myself on a blogging schedule but it inevitably gets messed up due to my husband’s work schedule because on his days off there’s stuff to do and I know for awhile there he thought I was having a love affair with my blog.

I am also trying to gather more knowledge for my love of photography and design.  Which sometimes with my OCD can become completely time consuming due to perfection and getting something exactly how I want it or watching tutorials to learn something new.

I encourage everyone to let go of the linky guilt if you are suffering from it.  If you host one and need a break then take one.  BREATHE.  There’s so much more to life than linkys.  Buuuuut…it is the best way to find your blogging posse, get your blog read, and meet new bloggers.

So linky on but sometimes take some time off if you need to.

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~My Chaos~

Daily Writing Prompt

What do I define as my chaos?

*Chaos is getting up and getting the kids ready for school every morning.  Although I put them to bed right at 8pm every night they don’t fall asleep right away and sometimes are still getting up with the “I’m thirsty…I need to go pee” crap well after 10pm.   Other nights they are out in 10 minutes and then usually up way earlier than my alarm.

*Chaos is shoving and yelling getting them all in the car and buckled and ready to go somewhere.  Sometimes this can take longer than it takes to get to the location we are trying to reach.  It’s always a fight over who’s going to sit where, or someones carseat is blocking the other’s seatbelt and they won’t move.


*Chaos is looking at the laundry pile that I decided to put off for a couple of days and now has grown to an unattainable unwinnable unreachable impossible state to get finished.  Like I seriously just see myself buying an incinerator to throw it all into.  The kids will be fine going to school wrapped in cloths and duct tape right???

*Chaos is my children’s rooms that never seem to be clean even 5 minutes after I spend two hours in each one of them organizing and getting rid of junk.  It’s like suddenly they have rediscovered all their toys because they have been organized and put away.

*Chaos is trying to plan an entire summer’s worth of vacations with my husband in one day.  Why you ask?  Well because my husband is like that.  When he gets going on something it’s get it done RIGHT.NOW….all of it.  Why put off utnil tomorrow when you can get 3 months worth of planning done in one day?

*Chaos is trying to get some blogging, exercise, and errands done in the few hours I have to myself in the mornings before I have to pick the girls up from preschool and a whole new battle of chaos begins.

*Chaos is trying to decide what’s for dinner EVERY. DAMN. DAY.  Then forgetting to take the meat out and having to make a trip to the grocery store where I then buy more stuff that wasn’t even on my list.

*Chaos is there’s 2 t-ball games this week and I am on the volunteer sheet for snacks for both games.  And then that thought reminding me that their uniforms are in that pile of clothes waiting for the incinerator.  Unless of course it didn’t make it to the hamper and is under the bed, folded up in a sheet, tucked under a stuffed animal.  Yes really.

*Chaos is at this very moment, that I am trying to get this post finished, my 5 year old wants to argue with me about why she doesn’t get paid for her chores.  WHAT?!?! She’s 5!  I quickly remind her that she lives here and everyone has chores to do.

*Chaos is looking at the list of things that need to get done before the end of the school year.  4 kids and 3 different schools. Ceremonies, graduations, and special days to attend.

*Chaos is listening to my 16 year old and 6 year old fight like an old married couple cats and dogs, and wondering if they will ever obtain a bond with the 10 years there are between them.


*Chaos is my 16 year old wanting to argue with his dad and I about everything because, well, he’s a teenager and knows everything.

*Chaos is having a house that I can’t keep organized because I need about 3 clones of me or more hours in the day.  And before I had kids you could eat off my floor because my house was that clean.  All. The. Time.

So in the midst of all my chaos I find peace.  It might only be moments of guzzling a bottle of wine peace sometimes, but it’s still there.   The chaos reminds me that I am alive, healthy, and blessed to be surrounded by 5 human beings that love me.  That we have a roof over our heads and food in our bellies.  And so for all those blessings…I will gladly accept the chaos.

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~What Will I Do For Work~

Lately I have been thinking a lot about what I really want to do when I go back to work, if in fact I do go back to work.  That too is still in discussion.  With the kids school and sports schedules it’s almost impossible.

I am blessed that I have a husband that works really hard to provide for his family and I don’t really need to work.  I do make a little extra money on the side doing odds and ends like photography, graphic design, waxing eyebrows (I am trying to convince my friends to get their who-has waxed with no prevail, so far…they think it hurts or something),  but not an amount of money to brag about by any means.  I would probably make more money if I was a stripper advertised more but somehow one day goes by and then the next and then I just say f*ck it!  Maybe next week.

I just renewed my Aesthetician and Nail Technician licenses just in case I do decide to return to the field that I spent 20+ years in.  I could write a book with the stories I heard over the years.

The best one was I had 3 lovely ladies that were all going to the same church.  Two of them, without the knowledge of the other, were having affairs with the pastor of the church…who was married…AND GIVING MARRIAGE COUNSELING.cosmetology nail technician aesthetician work  And the third lady kept trying to convince me that I had to come to her church because her pastor was such a wonderful person.  Yeah, and I managed never to say a word…and people wonder why I am not religious.

I really loved working in the industry and am toying with a few ideas if I do decide to return to it.  I mean where else can you get paid to sit around and gossip all day?
But there is also a side of me that would really like to try something different which is why while I have been home with the kids I started doing photography which then lead to graphic design.  But I realize that I need a lot more training as there are so many new and interesting programs to use.  And everything costs more money to get into.

I have toyed with several ideas of businesses to open in this small little town I live in.  One of the ideas someone else did and guess what?  It’s striving!  Which makes me want to stab myself in the eye for not listening to my instincts and just do it.

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I am also currently looking into getting Domesticated Momster trademarked.  Did you know it can take up to two years to get a name trademarked and that’s with a lawyer?  Absurd if you ask me.

My biggest decision about returning to work is that I don’t want my kids to miss opportunities because I decided to go back to work.  I don’t want them to have to sacrifice their happiness for my selfishness.

And let’s face it “MOM” really is the best title on my resume so far.

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National Couples Appreciation Month

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April is National Couples Appreciation Month.  So if you haven’t let your other half know how much you want to kill them appreciate them in awhile…then sometime this month is your chance.

My husband and I have been together since November of 2008, after meeting on the internet.  It didn’t take us long to become inseparable.  The fact that he could make me laugh ALL THE TIME is what attracted me to him the most.  He’s not bad to look at either.  *wink wink*  I mean who wouldn’t fall in love with someone who was brave enough to show off “the goat” after about a week of dating.

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Now I am sure you are wondering what “the goat” is right?  And I even tried to find an image of it on the internet with no success.  Basically it has to do with a man being naked and then tucking his balls between his legs and mooning you.  I was tempted to have my husband demonstrate his lovely talent but I don’t want to scare anyone.  But if you are laughing right now, then you have obviously painted a picture in your head and we are good!

Moving on….

We have been through a lot of ups and downs throughout the years, just like any relationship.  But I can honestly say that the ups still outweigh the downs tremendously.  We are both stubborn as hell which doesn’t help when we find some ridiculous thing to argue about like who’s better at driving or who takes longer to get ready for a date night.  But through it all I have come to realize that no matter what…he’s the one person in this world who has and always will have my back.  Who has seen me at my worst and still managed not to run for the hills to keep on loving me.

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I know I don’t tell him enough how much I appreciate him.  I think we both just get busy with daily life sometimes and forget that this life we have built starts with the strong foundation we created…us.  We both work hard to provide love and stability for our family.

We recently had the pleasure of spending an entire week together, on vacation, with no kids.  The best part about the vacation was that I realized the foundation is still here…even with all the cracks and all the wear and tear it’s still just as strong, if not stronger, than the first day we met.  Or should I say, since the first day he showed me “the goat”?

Have you appreciated your other half lately?

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Quote Of The Week ~ March 13, 2014

  

 Success has never been made from someone just sitting on their butt.  Well maybe there have been a few but personally I would like to achieve success by getting up and taking control of it. Working for it.  And being proud of myself when I’ve accomplished it.

I may be a stay at home mom, but you won’t catch me just sitting around on my butt very much.  That’s not to say that I don’t have designated lazy days but lately they are becoming less frequent.  

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