7 Tips That Make Life As A Mom That Little Bit Easier

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Being a mom really is everything it’s cracked up to be. It’s amazing and changes a woman’s life in countless ways. Despite all the beauty of it, though, being a mom is incredibly hard. Here are 7 tips that will make life as a mom a little bit easier.

1. Resist the urge to go it alone.‚Ä®

Total self-sufficiency is the motherhood kiss of death. Raising kids is hard, exhausting work. If you’re co-parenting, make sure your partner is doing their fair share. If you’re a single mother, you need to have a network of support. Whether you’re a single mother or half of a parenting dream team, you need to say yes to offers for outside help and you need to specifically ask for help. Family members and friends are usually eager to help out. It takes a village, and if you try to go it alone, you’ll end up permanently exhausted and unhappy.

2. Forget about perfect.‚Ä®

Forget the dreams you had about motherhood. Forget the Pinterest boards full of amazing kid ideas. Forget the images of perfect lives you see from other moms on social media. Lots of days of being a mom will be perfect, full of that incomparable joy you felt the first time you held your baby. But plenty of days will also be hard and messy and not at all perfect. Throw the idea of perfect out the window and you’ll learn to appreciate the magic packed into all those messy days. Stop giving yourself a hard time for failing to live up to those Pinterest boards and celebrity mom Instagram posts. Those are staged glimpses at ideal moments. They’re occasionally achievable, but that’s only one little piece of the picture. Reality, in all its messy glory, is its own kind of perfection.

3. Every age is the best.

Don’t approach your kid’s childhood as groups of fun ages and ages to dread. Forget about the terrible twos and the terrible tweens. Even forget about the magic of babyhood or the delight of having school-age children. Every single age of a child is amazing and special in its own way. Every age is also hard in its own way. The cliche is true: it all goes by so fast. Find something to love and cherish about each age. Don’t miss the magic of right now because you’re living in the past or the future.

4. Remember that mom stuff can be cute and stylish.

Being a mom means owning and hauling around all kinds of things for your kids. Just because it’s for a practical purpose, though, doesn’t mean it has to be ugly! Choose products that fit your sense of style, products that make you smile, products that will make you the envy of all the other moms. Choose a¬†cute diaper bag¬†and you’ll be prepared to keep your baby clean and happy when you’re out and about, but you’ll also feel happy yourself for rocking some sweet baby swag. Shopping for kid stuff can have the same joy as shopping for shoes or handbags when you realize that kid stuff can be cute and fashionable.



5. Remember that being a mom is just one part of who you are.


Motherhood is amazing and can be all-consuming. It’s all too easy to let it completely take over your identity. Remember that there are other parts of you, too. You’re still a partner, child, sibling, career-woman, painter, yogi, churchgoer, sports fan, or whatever else makes you uniquely you. Be a mom, but not a mom to the exclusion of everything else. Take time for yourself. You’ll be happier, but as a bonus, your child will learn a pretty important lesson in seeing you do this.

6. Watch out for clutter.
Having kids means having a lot of extra stuff.

A lot of it is vital and a lot of it is imbued with all kinds of special memories, but a lot of it is clutter. Get in the habit of clearing out what you don’t need regularly or you’ll eventually be looking at a mountain of crap. Go through your kid’s clothing and toy collection and find a new home (donate, give away, sell, trash) for anything you no longer need. Kid art is particularly hard to part with, but you will amass a lot of it very quickly. Save the most special pieces and scan all the rest. You’ll still be able to look back at that scribbled drawing from age 2 and that self-portrait from age 5, but you won’t have to dig through 10 overstuffed bins of artwork to find it. You might even implement a rule that for every new item that comes in the house, one must go out. New toy in, old toy out. Decluttering kid things can get trickier as your child gets older, but it’s another great teaching moment. Involve your kid in the decision-making process for what stays and what goes and it will be less traumatic.

Children are hilarious and parenting is full of hysterical moments. Don’t forget to laugh. Laugh often and take the time to record some of the funniest stories. Keep a journal where you write down all the cute things your kid says or does and mark the date. Whether handwritten or digital, this will be a favorite thing to look back on for many years to come. You will not regret doing this. You might think that you’ll remember all of these moments, but you won’t. Sure, you’ll remember many of them, but a lot of gold will slip through the cracks of your memory. As your kids get older, they’ll love it as well and you can belly laugh about it together. Of course, some of the stories you’ve recorded are sure to be embarrassing to your kids as they get older, but sometimes that makes it even more fun.

Disclaimer:  This post was sent to me as a guest post and none of these words are that of my own.

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10 Things You Should Know Before Having 3 Kids ~ Guest Post

I was contacted by Crystal at Baby Follow  to host a guest post about having 3 kids.  And since I have 3 kids and can relate to a lot of this I was of course delighted to have her.

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10 Things You Should Know Before Having 3 Kids

 

Three kids seem to be the perfect number for most couples √Ī small enough to keep it manageable but big enough to keep family outings interesting. After I√≠ve become a mother to 3 kids however, I realized that having 3 of them is NOTHING like having just 2.

Don√≠t get me wrong √Ī all my kids are well-loved and cared for! Still, it can be quite shocking to find yourself having 3 little troopers in the house, all under the age of 7! If you√≠ve recently got a 3rd child or planning to have a 3rd one, here√≠s one housewife advice to another.

1. Sexy Time

Sex pretty much dries up or must be planned like a military operation because for some reason, the kids never synchronize their absence. At least one is always in the house, needs attention, needs food, crying for water, or needs to have monsters in the closet shooed away. Even if youíve got time at night, youíre pretty much too tired to do anything with the hubby.

2. Invest on Distractions

It√≠s time to get the good baby swing! There√≠s nothing quite like a good distraction that lets you do all those little things you used to take for granted √Ī like going to the bathroom. It is essential to get the good baby swing as it distracts your youngest and lulls him to sleep quickly. I√≠ve figured out that once my youngest goes to sleep, the other two are easier to manage.

3. Quiet is Suspicious

Need I say more? Noise is practically a signal of normality in the household. Once everything goes quiet, itís a sure sign that something is wrong.

4. It Takes a Village

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With two kids, I was still Supermom. I could handle my two boys without asking for help. With the 3rd however, I√≠ve accepted the √¨it takes a village√ģ adage and called for help, usually from the grandparents.

5. Mess is Endless

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Even as you pick something up, something new gets thrown on the floor. The mess never really ends with 3 kids √Ī and this includes the laundry! I√≠ve basically placed a huge box on the living room and told my kids to throw anything in there so I can sort them out later and the floor stays clean!

6. Zumba and Other Exercises

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As a stay at home parent, most of my exercises are done through the television. That√≠s not possible anymore with 3 active kids. On the plus side, you can get more physical workout just running after your toddlers √Ī but this is an all day job! For some reason, they√≠re on a schedule when it comes to energy source so that when one is recuperating their energy, the other one is at full speed. A postpartum girdle is a best choice if you√≠re feeling a bit of strain along your belly area, especially if you√≠ve had a C-section. Wearing this actually helped me get my shape back!

7. Nothing is Constant

What worked for my first two doesn√≠t seem to work with the 3rd when it comes to sleeping time, eating, and play. Hence, I had to change strategies √Ī which are a lot like being a brand new parent all over again! Take nothing for granted and be ready to adapt!

8. Helicopter Parenting

With one or even two kids, you could be more involved. For example, I√≠d actually help my little girl and boy to pick out their clothes for the day and help them in it. With the 3rd however, I√≠ve switched to helicopter parenting. It basically means hovering where I simply go check to see if they√≠ve done what they√≠re supposed to do and move on. Although you might want to be involved in every step of their daily life √Ī it just becomes impossible!

9. Teach Early

With two kids, my husband√≠s strategy was divide and conquer√≠ as each of use gets a kid. With the arrival of the 3rd however, this strategy no longer works. I dread the day when our youngest would be able to walk and therefore √Ī run. This is why as early as 2, we√≠ve been teaching our middle child how to act and respond when we√≠re in public in the hope that self-discipline will work its magic.

10. Yes √Ī You Will

Lastly, accept that you√≠re going to mess up √Ī it√≠s part of being a parent to 3 active children! Just keep in mind that pretty soon, your kids are going to turn into teens so it√≠s best to relish these moments while you can.

Of course, those are just few of the skills new parents need to learn how to care for their kids. Remember: adapt as you go because no two kids are ever the same, but youíll love them anyway!

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A Letter To My Mommy

In honor of the first Mother’s Day since I have started my blog I thought that in honor of my mom…I would post her a letter.  Plus, I am just so bad at sending cards.

Dear Mommy,

Since I can remember you have always been a huge part of my life.  Let’s face it…you gave birth to me and that’s an ordeal all by itself with my 9lb. 9oz. self.  But I don’t think I truly appreciated you as my mother…until I was a mother as well.

I was a rebellious teenager who thought she knew everything there was to know about the world and oh how I was wrong.  I resented you for so many things the day I left home but now I realize that resentment comes with a high price of pain and that it should never be carried onto any next chapter of life.  I have since let go of all of that and feel a better person because of it.

You have been a wonderful grandma to my babies and they all love you so dearly.  You have also been wonderful at loving my stepsons and never making them feel like you weren’t thinking about them in any less way as your own.  

I know there are times through the years that I have been a difficult daughter and you could have given up on me but you didn’t and I will forever be grateful for that.  You never hesitated 3 times in 3 years to be by my side at the birth of each of my babies and it truly comforted me especially after my first when the emotions of my life changing became a little overwhelming for a moment.  You were there to make me feel better and I love and appreciate you more for it.

You should feel proud on this and every Mother’s Day for you have raised 3 caring, crazy, and loving kids who even through the bumps in the road have found their places in adulthood.  They have stepped up to their responsibilities and we all love you dearly! 

I hope you have a wonderful day today and everyday and hope to see you soon!

Love you always,

Trista ‚̧ԳŹ

10 Reasons That You Might Have Taken SAHM To A Whole New Level

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You quit your job thinking that no one could raise your kids better then yourself. ¬†At first it’s an exciting new adventure thinking you get to sleep without setting an alarm and spend every waking moment with your new little one/ones. ¬†You plan out how your days will be spent and what activities you will be doing…you got this right? ¬†Wrong.

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1. ¬†The Up-D0. ¬†You roll out of bed and find the closest piece of hair gear that will keep all your ball of tangled mess in one place. ¬†All while taking the least amount of effort as possible. ¬†I don’t care who you are…no one wakes up looking like a movie star.

2. ¬†You think about getting dressed. ¬†But then realize you aren’t going anywhere today so decide fuck it who cares what I look like. ¬†You also justify this to yourself by thinking about how it will cut down on the quantity of laundry you have to do. ¬†This applies to the children as well.

3.  A shower becomes last on your list of things to do.  This also applies to shaving any part of your body.  Your husband awakens in the middle of the night because he just had a dream of Chewbacca from

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wanting to cuddle” only to realize it’s you in your coat of human fur caressing up against him. ¬†You sniff your armpits and down the front of your shirt to confirm that there will be no midnight quickie tonight. The next day you realize you need to tend to the Boob sweat, which ¬†is just simply cleaned away with a wipey and some fresh deodorant keeps the BO at bay.

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4. ¬†The make-up in your caddy becomes expired. ¬†Gone are the days of having oodles of time to get your face paint looking just right. ¬†Now it’s rub off the mascara that’s under your eyes after going to bed without washing it off and it then becomes new eyeliner…then apply fresh mascara. ¬†Easy Peasy right? ¬†Don’t forget to rub some vaseline on your lips while tending to the baby’s diaper rash apply lipgloss. ¬†Here’s a great video by Jesse James Decker on how to get the “dewey” look…but who has time to apply that many layers of face goo? ¬†Even amongst the non-SAHMs?

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5. ¬†¬†“Slipping into something more comfortable” now means sweats or yoga pants…not lingerie. ¬†When coming home from a great date night with your husband you look at the time and count how many hours of sleep you are now losing before the kids are going to be in your face screaming “MOMMY WAKE UP…I NEED YOU” ¬†You throw on your ugliest pair of sweats or yoga pants in hopes that he will just not find you charming enough to have sex with…just this once. ¬†The “no shower since yesterday and now it’s bedtime” works pretty well too.

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6. ¬†Caffeine and wine become a necessity instead of an enjoyed frill. ¬†You buy wine by the box and drink it in a cup rather then an ornamental wine glass. ¬†Kids break that shit. ¬†And on really bad days you sip it through a straw. ¬†The kids begin to recognize your “mommy” cup and know to stay clear from putting their little lips on it to take a sip of your “mommy juice“. ¬†You used to drink those frilly coffee drinks from “you know where” but now they have been replaced with just straight up shots of expresso. ¬†If you could bag it intravenously to your arm and roll with it on a stand like an IV at the hospital…YOU WOULD.

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7. ¬†When you do dress up…people don’t recognize you. ¬†You run around town in your sweats and yoga pants. ¬†You have replaced the house slippers with tennis shoes as to possibly fool people into thinking that you might have just come from the gym in this attire you possess. ¬†You drop your kids off at school and because you are not a morning person anymore you do this just after rolling out of bed..sometimes forgetting to remove the house slippers before piling the kids into the car. ¬†Upon seeing anyone out when “dressed up” (usually only for date nights) ¬†their reply is “You look so pretty.” ¬†This translates to “You look like shit the rest of the time.” ¬†You justify this to yourself by your being a SAHM and looking the part. Or you can just bitch slap them.bitch slap SAHM

8. ¬†Girls nights out are replaced with playdates. ¬†Having children when your friends are not, changes the entire dynamic of a friendship. ¬†You used to stay out until the sun was coming up and then stopping for breakfast before heading home. ¬†Now you are like Cinda-fucking-rella and worried about getting home by midnight so you can still get enough sleep to handle the little balls of energy that your husband’s sperm bank created who will want your attention regardless of the headache that ails you. ¬†“Mommy doesn’t feel good” has no translation to them. ¬†No meaning WHAT-SO-EVER. ¬†Consequently you resort to playdates and trying to find another mom that you may have something to cling to in common with.

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9. ¬†You have replaced your spa days with hours by yourself at the grocery store. ¬†As much as you hate grocery shopping, if it’s a chance to go somewhere by yourself, you consume every bit of that duration that you can…taking the time to go through each isle…even the isles that you know don’t contain anything that you need to buy. ¬†In the car you blare your favorite 80’s music taking you back to before kids if only for a short car ride home.

10. ¬†You know every song to every disney show/movie. ¬†The kids have all gone to bed and 2 hours later you look up to realize that “Doc McStuffins” is still chanting “Time For A Check-up” through the speakers of ¬†your television. ¬† Social media has become your only means to the outside world. ¬†You are so engrossed in what’s going on in everyone else’s life that you could care less that it’s now time for “The Hot Dog Dance” for the second time since you put your kids to bed.

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Laughing until my eyes pop out!

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Friday’s Top Five: 4/3

Wow another week has already flown by!  Time for my weekly blogger love and my weekly top 5!

Coffee Break Blogger  She is a mother of 4 kids and newbie to the blogging world.

The Storyteller Adobe  Enter the world of make believe.

Three Boys And A Mom  Life is crazy, messy, and absolutely beautiful.

Cuddle Fairy ¬†She is¬†a wife and a Mommy to three kids…oldest is 8, 5, and 2.

Wide Eye Funk  The World Startles.

Enjoy!

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I Hate Days Like This

Every so often I have one of “these” days. ¬†I swear I blame it on the W_I_N_D! ¬†It starts from the time the little monsters rise and continues until bedtime!

First monster M woke up sometime around 5am with a tummy ache. ¬†Any time my kids say they have a tummy ache I tell them to go sit on the toilet and try to poop. ¬†9 times out of 10 the fact they have not pooped in the last 24 hours is reason behind the tummy ache. ¬†So she wanders into my bathroom and I “think” I dosed back off to sleep…I am not sure because I swear it seemed like seconds later and she was yelling “Mommy! I’m done!”…pause…”Mommy! Do you hear me?!?!” ¬†With one eye open I stumble to the bathroom to wipe said child’s ass. ¬†Any other time of day she would have successfully wiped her own ass but because it’s 5am she wants me to do it. We wash hands and crawl back into bed… What seems like moments later, the morning alarm goes off. ¬†Let the day of ¬†crankies begin.

It starts with not being able to decide what we want for breakfast and then crying on the floor of the kitchen. ¬†My Keurig wasn’t brewing that coffee fast enough I tell you. ¬†I actually contemplated removing it half full and then finishing it off with vodka and Bailey’s. ¬†I refrained. ¬†She finally decided she didn’t want anything to eat and that she just wanted to lay on the couch with her blanket because she didn’t feel good. ¬†Luckily my teenagers are home on spring break…did I just refer to that as lucky?…well I guess for today it was because I was able to just hop in the truck with monster B Man in tow and off to the preschool we went.

All was fine…until I got back home. ¬†Another meltdown by monster M because she was upset that she didn’t go to school! ¬†Trying to explain to a 3 year old why they should stay home when not feeling well is like trying to saw wood with a fingernail file. ¬†By the time I got her convinced that it wasn’t the end of the world …it was time to pick monster B Man up again.

Nothing has gone right since waking up. ¬†It’s been one meltdown after another. ¬†I had to make a phone call to switch service with a company and they had me on the line for over half an hour. ¬†Toddler nation just simply does not let mommy talk on the phone for even 1 minute let alone 30!

One Of These Days

Frustrated Momster,

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30 Day Writing Challenge: Day 4

25 Things To Do Before My Next Birthday…

This one is quite amusing since my birthday is Friday.  So I am going to make a list of things that I want to get done before Friday and see how much of the list I complete.

1.  Keep the kids alive.  This is very important.  Hence why it is at the top.

2. ¬†Workout Everyday…even if it’s just a quick walk around the hood.

3. ¬†Get every piece of laundry done…before Friday…now that’s a challenge!

4.  Get to bed before midnight some time this week.

5. ¬†Make sure all my “cleaning chores” are done by Friday…no one likes to clean on their birthday.

6. ¬†Lose a pound. ¬†It’s the tiny goals that keep me motivated.

7. ¬†Grocery shopping…we are almost in “Mother Hubbard” status. ¬†(seriously…click on that…have you ever read it? Creepy!)

8. ¬†Clean out one closet in the house. ¬†It’s amazing what accumulates in a year.

9.  Catch up on some shows on my DVR list.

10. ¬†Bubble bath and wine one night…maybe two. ¬† (my birthday night doesn’t count)

11. ¬†Order Little Z’s birthday present. ¬†Her birthday is the same day as mine.

12. ¬†Have sex. ¬†With a random stranger…hahaha just kidding…with my husband of course.

13. ¬†Take the littles to the park…weather permitting of course…today is cold and rainy.

14. ¬†Tie my shoes…**I am running out of ideas here people**

15. ¬†Try not to yell so much…that will take more of numbers 10 and 12. ¬†I truly hate yelling but sometimes it’s the only way they L-I-S-T-E-N!

16. ¬†Don’t strangle the teenagers. ¬†Need I say more?

17. ¬†Wake up. ¬†Hey this one is important….I don’t think the household would operate very well without my presence.

18.  Consume lots of caffeine.  This will be needed to complete 1-17.

19. ¬†Be Thankful. ¬†Figured I had better throw that in there…this is starting to sound like a struggle.

20. ¬†Take my Zoloft. ¬†Believe it or not…I forget to do this.

21.  Go to the spa.  Hahahaha!

22. Dye my hair. ¬†Don’t need all these gray hairs reminding me how old I am going to be on Friday.

23. ¬†Go to the dentist to check on the 4 gaping holes in the back of my mouth. ¬†It’s on the “to do list” board but I will probably still forget.

24.  Blog!

25. ¬†Breathe. ¬†Can’t do anything on this list without that right? **grasping at straws**

Whew this was a challenge!

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