Throwback Thursday ~ A Housewife’s Wardrobe

As I was hanging up my clothes today I started to think to myself that my wardrobe is just not as cute as it used to be. ¬†Yes I have managed to hang onto some of the cute stuff but rarely do I find myself wearing it. ¬†My closet has become full of what I would call a housewife’s wardrobe.

The majority of my laundry consists of sweats (Old Navy sweats are my favorite), t-shirts that are dated back to the pregnancy with my first child…not to mention they look even older after being washed and warn what seems like a gazillion times, and sweatshirts…the ones that I throw upon myself to rush to the grocery store. ¬†Oh and lets not forget my lovely go to yoga pants…comfy doesn’t get any comfier then a washed and warn pair of yoga pants. ¬†Unfortunately they have never seen the light of day of a yoga class.

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I have also found a love for cameos. ¬†Nothing fancy, Kirkland brand from Costco. ¬†But I wear them under EVERYTHING. ¬†Sometimes I feel like it’s just one step closer to wearing “spanx”. ¬†Although I just don’t see how something squeezing every ounce of cellulite could be anywhere near comfort. And where does all the fat go? ¬†And what happens when you take it off? ¬†Isn’t that kind of like false advertisement? ¬†Like the wonder bra and wonder jeans, where one wonders what happened when they are removed. ¬†Of course that only applies to people who are dating, I suppose. ¬†As “married with children” women we have had everything on display already.

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Now mind you I have come a long way in motherhood with my wardrobe. ¬†Long gone are the days that I would get dolled up to leave the house and inevitably one of the babies would spit up and I didn’t have time to change. ¬†Nothing like sitting somewhere smelling like soured breast milk.

 

I complain to my husband about my wardrobe and of course he tells me to go out and buy some new clothes. ¬†But for what? I don’t go anywhere that requires anything more then my current “mommy wear”. ¬†And for our occasional date nights I have a few pairs of jeans and “nice” tshirts for those outings. ¬†I mean seriously am I going to clean the house and attend to the children in fancy clothes? ¬†I am sure there are mothers that do so but as for me I have never been much of a fashionista so why start now? ¬†I would rather spend my money on something more rational…like wine. ¬†**smiles**

 

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We live in a small town…you know the kind where some people can’t even get out of their pajama bottoms to go to the grocery store. ¬†I am quite certain our local Wal-Mart is on a YouTube video somewhere.

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I have some really cute pajama pants but I am not about to wear them out in public…unless of course I don’t need to get out of the car…then it’s acceptable. ¬†I say this because once my kids start school I know that I am going to be one of those mom’s dropping my kids off with my pajamas and slippers on. ¬†I am NOT a morning person what so ever and the fact that I will have 3 of them to get ready at the crack of dawn, that just doesn’t leave time for me to worry about what I look like.

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Even at 10am this is what I still look like.

UPDATE: ¬†I go to the gym after dropping off the kids these days so I am usually dressed the part…but on Fridays my littlest one doesn’t go to preschool so therefore the other two are dropped off with my pajamas on. ¬†Don’t judge. ¬†I don’t have to get out of the car.

I have also started hating to wear bras…mind you I will not go out in public without one on but as soon as I get home it’s the first thing to come off. ¬†My “girls” don’t like to be all bunched up in a wad. ¬†I mean could you imagine if men had penis bras? ¬†Or had to go everywhere wearing a jock strap? ¬†We would never hear the end of how uncomfortable that was. ¬†Well I feel the same way about my boulder holder. ¬†Therefore when I am home, it is off. ¬†**feels sorry for the random people who come to the door**

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Truth is I am a stay at home mom/housewife and I enjoy dressing the part. ¬†Let’s face it…who wouldn’t like to be able to go into work everyday with messy hair and comfy clothes? ¬†My kids don’t care what I look like. ¬†All they care about is that mommy is here to take care of their every need. ¬†The only thing they notice is when I have morning breath and they tell me to brush my teeth. ¬†My son tells me I am beautiful even when I look like a train wreck. ¬†And lucky for me my husband likes the “natural” me. ¬†Meaning a little eyeliner and mascara and although I have long hair it is usually up…and I am ok with it. ¬†I am more comfortable with me now than I was in my younger years. ¬†So to all you moms out there who wonder if your wardrobe has gotten a bit on the frumpy side just remember that as long as your kids are happy who cares if your shirt has a hole in it?

The “not so fashionista”,

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UPDATE: ¬†I wrote this piece when I first started my blog. ¬†I have since purchased some new clothes and actually because this year I made a decision that I was going to promise to myself to get in shape I will be purchasing some more clothes. ¬†Something about losing weight and feeling healthy on the inside makes you want to look better on the outside. ¬†But I still love my pajama days…which is usually only Sundays these days.

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Throwback Thursday ~ Why Does Marriage Take A Lot Of Work

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I wrote this post about a year ago. ¬†I made a few revisions and it’s my pick for Throwback Thursday.

My friend Rod over at Modern Dad Pages wrote a piece recently that got me to thinking and wanting to respond in my own way to his question of “Why Do We Say Marriage Is A Lot Of Work?” ¬†He inspired me to want to write a blog post about it rather than leave a 600word essay¬†message ¬†in his comments.

Definition of work: Activity involving mental or physical effort done in order to achieve a purpose or result. This is according to a google search. ¬†It’s also the same definition in which Rod used. ¬†Google is a popular place…no wonder their stock price is 660.06 a share and up $24 at this moment. ¬†Oh wait I was talking about marriage here….

UPDATE: Google today is worth 779.51 a share.

What I gather of Rod’s “opinion” is that marriage doesn’t fall under this definition. So let’s break it down…

*Activity ~ That would be the marriage

*Involving Mental or physical effort ~ I don’t know about you but marriage makes me mental. ¬†And I don’t mean this in a bad way…it doesn’t always make me want to stab my husband in the leg with a fork crazy all the time. ¬†Mental is also happy, giddy, sad, aggravated, horny, ….etc.

As far as physical effort? ¬†Hello what’s sex? ¬†And I am sorry, I don’t care if you’ve been together 3 years or 30+ years…sex can sometimes be a physical effort. ¬†Not to mention that when you’re finished, and you have done it right, you are breathing like you just got done running a 5k marathon with a toddler strapped to your back. ¬†Exercising, by the definition standards of once again, google, is…¬†activity requiring physical effort, carried out especially to sustain or improve health and fitness and a good sex life. ¬†Yes I added the crossed out part. ¬†Somehow, it just looks like it fits in that definition.

UPDATE: I need more physical activity lately.

Another form of physical effort…hugging, kissing, wrestling around playing, holding hands, smacking each other across the face ass…etc. ¬†It’s all physical and it all takes some effort …. from each of the participants.

*In order to achieve a purpose or result ~¬†All of the above must be done to “achieve” a successful marriage and not “result” in divorce.

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Rod quoted:

“When I hear people talking about ‚Äúmarriage being a lot of work‚ÄĚ it actually strikes a cord deep in me and I have to ask ‚Äúwhy is marriage a lot of work, but when you hear people refer to a friend or best friend it flourishes‚ÄĚ?

In my “opinion” I think all relationships need work by both parties. ¬†A friendship only flourishes if both friends are making a mental and physical effort to be friends. ¬†Caring about that friend, physically calling or texting that friend, thinking about that friend, having mental images about the times had with that friend. ¬†If none of those are done…the friendship, as a result, dissolves. ¬†And a lifetime friendship is not achieved.

Therefore, marriage and friendships are only successfully attained when both participants inspire towards mental and physical aspects, efforts, attempts, etc. …. all in a result to work together.

Rod also quoted:

You shouldn‚Äôt feel like you need to do things to keep them happy rather they should appreciate the small things you do for them. Marriage should be to your best friend and it should flourish rather than feel like ‚Äúwork‚ÄĚ!

I agree that you should never feel obligated to make or keep someone happy.  Especially if there is no repercussion from the other person on efforts to make you happy.  But even the little things we do in our marriages and friendships, everyday, are mental and physical in order to achieve a long-lasting result.  If you completely ignore or fail to communicate with one another, there is nothing left to work on.

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For instance, if you go to work and there is nothing left to work on then you are let go(divorce) from said job(marriage).

UPDATE: It’s been a rough year on my own marriage. ¬†We have talked circles about change but now realize that it’s time to either stick to “working” on those changes or both our relationship statuses are going to change.

In conclusion to Rod’s question…”my” answer is this: ¬†marriage is a lot of work due to the fact that by NOT working on it…it won’t exist. It’s mental and physical effort to achieve a successful result.

I want to thank Rod for inspiring me to get my opinionated juices flowing.

What’s your opinion?

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Throwback Thursday ~ 25 Things That Piss Me Off

I wrote this post about a year ago and realize that all these things still annoy me and I could probably add to the list but I will just make a Part 3 instead.  But I have chosen this post for my Throwback Thursday pick!

 

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Another 25 things that really put me in a tizzy…you can see the first 25 here.

People at bars these days…did I act that stupid when I was young?

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When my little monsters decide that they want to nap at 5 in the evening and then stay up half the night.

Anything relating to cleaning. ¬†I usually just turn on an episode of “Hoarders” and then realize that my house looks just fine.

Heartburn.

The Raiders football team along with The Chiefs and The Chargers.

My husband’s smoking. ¬†Although he is in the process of quitting.

(UPDATE: ¬†He quit for a minute and has finally realized that he can’t casually smoke while drinking, he started Chantix again yesterday…let’s keep our fingers¬†crossed that it sticks this time)

The 1st of the month at Wal-Mart.  Have you ever been to Wal-Mart on the 1st of the month?  I would highly suggest NOT doing it.

When I order food and they get it wrong. ¬†I never complain about it either cause I am afraid they will take it back and spit in it….I do however leave a reflection of it in my tip. ¬†I have also been known to leave notes on the backs of my receipts to let them know why their tip wasn’t more. ¬†And if you are ever mad about an order from a fast food establishment…call the corporate office and complain! ¬†They will send you coupons for FREE stuff!

When a TV show that I love either ends or gets canceled for no reason!  This is especially true when I watch a first season of something and LOVE it and then it never gets a second season.  And I am just left dangling about what happened.  So annoying!

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When the temperature gets over 100 degrees.  Anything over 100 is just plain hot, hot, hot!

When I am out of wine vodka whiskey beer booze.  This is a shitty bad situation for all of those around me as well.

Recently my neighbors have made me mad asking that my husband and I keep it down in our own backyard.  And it was just the two of us!

Getting old.  My mind says I am 20 something but my body has a tendency to tell me otherwise.

When I spend precious time watching a horrible movie.  I feel like it is just such a waste of my time.

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When I forget to take said movie back to Redox and end up paying way too much for it.  That really irritates me!

Toys!  Everywhere there are toys!  Because some days I am just too fucking preoccupied busy to constantly tell the kids to pick up their toys.

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Trying to think about “What’s for dinner” every single day!

Sticky floors.  Especially summertime when Watermelon is in season and popsicles.

When someone asks me the same question that I already answered a few times before.  My husband is notorious for this.

Liars. ¬†I can’t stand people who lie. ¬†Especially when the truth was so much easier to tell rather then a snowball of lies.

Solicitors. ¬†I even have a “No Soliciting” sign on my front door and those beepity beep beep beepers still ring my doorbell. ¬†Which then rally’s up the kids and my nerves!

PMS.  Probably the cause of this entire rant!

Whirlpool Corporation.  You can read all about that story here.  I am actually surprised it took me this long to mention them.

(UPDATE: ¬†After all the fuss I made and being blocked from their Twitter, they did finally replace the part at their own cost…it now sits in my garage as a back-up washer.)

Every time that something in my house breaks.  I mean what happened to shit lasting?  Nothing is made right anymore.  Yes I realize I have a large family but seriously so were most of the families I knew growing up and they had shit that lasted for d-e-c-a-d-e-s!

When my kids keep getting up after I have put them to bed. ¬†I have a great story about that here. ¬†Make sure you watch the video narrated by Samuel L. Jackson. ¬†It’s hilarious but make sure your kids aren’t in “ear” distance. ¬†The F-bomb is said….A LOT!

Yours Truly,

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Throwback Thursday ~ How You Know You Have Reached Forty Something

This was originally posted in May of 2015 but it’s my pick for this weeks Throwback Thursday!

Oh the dreadful “over the hill”. ¬†Somedays I feel like I am already buried in the hill but here is a list of just a few things that remind me I have reached the age of 40 something.

  • When riding in the car and you turn the station to “Hair Nation” ((don’t judge me)) and your kids look at you like you have just turned on a foreign language. ¬†Along with your husband who is five years younger can’t stop making fun of you for listening to such a station.
  • When you wake up but it takes you 30 minutes for the “overnight kinks” to get the hell out of your body.
  • When the first cup of coffee is only for the flavor….it takes 3 or 4 more to actually wake you up.

 

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  • Your nipples are just about headed south for the winter…well actually for the rest of your life unless you get a boob job.
  • Your menstrual cycle is no longer referred to as a period, ¬†it’s now more like a huge freudian ink blot.
  • You can no longer be friends with hard liquor. ¬†The hangovers that used to take a day to recover from now take no less then a week.
  • You walk into rooms forgetting what the fuck you came in there for…oh wait that’s been something I’ve done most of my life…I blamed pot before…now I just blame it on being over 40.
  • A “wild” night consists of being out until midnight.
  • The “little black dress” now goes past the knees and half way to the ankles.

 

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  • Your hair brush looks like a small furry animal.
  • It’s time for the dreadful squashing of the boobs in which is referred to as a mammogram…is someone sending my boobs a note?
  • You’ve replaced movies like “91/2 Weeks” with watching “The Food Network”.
  • It’s time to start worrying about retirement money that doesn’t exist.
  • You value your sleep. ¬†Sleep has suddenly become the most prized possession.
  • In high school you could eat a salad and work out to lose 10 pounds…now you would literally have to go on an episode of “Naked And Afraid” to lose any substantial amount of weight.
  • You purchase alcohol, and you break into your rendition of “the happy dance”, if the cashier asks you for your ID.
  • Every time you look in the mirror you notice another patch of gray hair not just a single hair here and there. ¬†There’s also a new laugh line even though you don’t laugh much these days.

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  • Your mood swings have become more like large capsules of time.
  • You squint at everything forgetting that your glasses are sitting on top of your head.

I am sure there are many more but at 40 something I can’t remember.

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Throwback Thursday ~ In Search Of A New Mommy

This was a post from January of last year. ¬†I didn’t make any changes to it but I have posted an update at the end of it.

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I have always been quite the outgoing gal.  Always made friends really easily growing up and even in my early adulthood.  Granted, a lot of those friendships were made through my work but easily made just the same.  After I had kids some of those friendships changed because when you are single and have no children you have a tendency to flock with birds of the same feather.  So after my first child was born I joined mommy groups and even started one of my own and from those I made friendships that are still in existence to this day, even though the distance between us now is a six hour drive.

We moved here to the northern hemisphere of Nevada in March of 2014.  I have met a few people but mostly I just hang out with my husband and his friends from work (which are usually all men). I have tried starting a mommy group and several people say they want to get together but never do.  I can be a total hermit sometimes, but I am still willing to make the effort if someone else is willing to meet me half way.

During the summer time I noticed that my across the street neighbor was going to the same soccer practice that I was taking my (at the time 4 yr old) to. ¬†I have only noticed older girls playing in the yard though and never any toddlers. ¬†Then today I noticed that she left at the same time I left to go get 2 of my 3 littles from preschool but I couldn’t tell when I pulled into the parking lot of the preschool exactly what car may be hers or if her child/children even attend preschool there. ¬†Then after I get home I am sitting here in the office typing up this blog and I have the window open to see if I can see her pull into her garage. ¬†I almost feel like a STALKER! ¬†So I ask myself…why don’t I just trot my happy ass across the street and knock on her door and say “howdy neighbor”. ¬†Because that would just be weird…that’s why.friends neighbors mommies momlife ¬†I try to think what my reaction would be if someone were to do that to me but quite honestly I would most likely be happy just to meet another mommy! ¬†Especially if they lived in walking distance! ¬†And if they liked to drink wine in the afternoon well then that would just seal the deal!!! ¬†**motions wine glass at the computer screen**

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When we moved into our house I payed attention to some of the kids on the street but all are older then my littles. ¬†One of the neighbors stopped by while she was on her way out to say a quick hello and welcome us to the neighborhood. ¬†Her kids are older but she seemed super nice ….plus she drives a jetta….really cool people drive jettas…I know this because I used to drive one. **smiles to herself** Not to mention her and her husband have a ton of dirt toys and just look like they would be fun people. ¬†They even tried to help me chase down my escapee German Shepard one day and if I wasn’t so frazzled at the time I probably would have realized that it would have been a perfect opportunity to stop and possibly strike up a conversation with them. ¬†But I didn’t. ¬†Damn dog.

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I know that everything takes time but I have always been an instant gratification type of person.  I am hoping that now that all of my kids have will be in school this fall,  that maybe this will give me the opportunity to meet some other mommies.  And as I wrap up this blog post, my neighbor has yet to have pulled into her garage or I am not very good at stalking and I missed her.  **sighs**

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Searching For Mrs. Right,

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UPDATE JANUARY 2016:

I still have not had a conversation with my across the street neighbor. ¬†Well unless you count the 30 second one sometime during last spring while picking up our kids from preschool. ¬†I have been told that they are mormon so there goes the whole “let’s drink wine together idea”. ¬†And even though I have decided to quit drinking as a goal for 2016, I know that I will never do anything but wave at her if we happen to be in our yards or leaving our homes at the same time.

The cool couple up the street still remain strangers as well.  The woman works at the coffee shop where I get my coffee a couple mornings a week and we know that we live two houses away from each other but still no communication other than she always remembers my order.

When we were having this house built everyone told us how cool our next door neighbors were. ¬†The same neighbors that told us to “keep it down” one evening when it was just my husband and I in the backyard last summer having a conversation and laughing. ¬†Wow…yeah…lots of fun they seem like. ¬†We didn’t seem to mind when he parked his truck in our driveway one night, after we had first moved into this house, and it sat there for 24 hours before he finally came and got it. ¬†My husband and I have a few scenarios of what could have possibly happened there.

After having our yard done last summer, and we did the entire front of it in desert landscaping, apparently we were referred to as the “rock yard” since most people around here have grass in their front yard. ¬†To me, grass in the front yard is just something more to maintain and a waste water.

Now don’t get me wrong, I have made a few friends since moving here and I do enjoy my husband’s friends that he works with but I just always thought it would nice to have someone that I could just take a short walk and have a glass of wine cup of coffee with while our kids run amuck.

Maybe this year…..