~What Will I Do For Work~

Lately I have been thinking a lot about what I really want to do when I go back to work, if in fact I do go back to work. ¬†That too is still in discussion. ¬†With the kids school and sports schedules it’s almost impossible.

I am blessed that I have a husband that works really hard to provide for his family and I don’t really need to work. ¬†I do make a little extra money on the side doing odds and ends like photography, graphic design, waxing eyebrows (I am trying to convince my friends to get their who-has waxed with no prevail, so far…they think it hurts or something), ¬†but not an amount of money to brag about by any means. ¬†I would probably make more money if I was a stripper advertised more but somehow one day goes by and then the next and then I just say f*ck it! ¬†Maybe next week.

I just renewed my Aesthetician and Nail Technician licenses just in case I do decide to return to the field that I spent 20+ years in.  I could write a book with the stories I heard over the years.

The best one was I had 3 lovely ladies that were all going to the same church. ¬†Two of them, without the knowledge of the other, were having affairs with the pastor of the church…who was married…AND GIVING MARRIAGE COUNSELING.cosmetology nail technician aesthetician work ¬†And the third lady kept trying to convince me that I had to come to her church because her pastor was such a wonderful person. ¬†Yeah, and I managed never to say a word…and people wonder why I am not religious.

I really loved working in the industry and am toying with a few ideas if I do decide to return to it.  I mean where else can you get paid to sit around and gossip all day?
But there is also a side of me that would really like to try something different which is why while I have been home with the kids I started doing photography which then lead to graphic design.  But I realize that I need a lot more training as there are so many new and interesting programs to use.  And everything costs more money to get into.

I have toyed with several ideas of businesses to open in this small little town I live in. ¬†One of the ideas someone else did and guess what? ¬†It’s striving! ¬†Which makes me want to stab myself in the eye for not listening to my instincts and just do it.

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I am also currently looking into getting Domesticated Momster trademarked. ¬†Did you know it can take up to two years to get a name trademarked and that’s with a lawyer? ¬†Absurd if you ask me.

My biggest decision about returning to work is that I don’t want my kids to miss opportunities because I decided to go back to work. ¬†I don’t want them to have to sacrifice their happiness for my selfishness.

And let’s face it “MOM” really is the best title on my resume so far.

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~Why Marriage Is A Lot Of Work~

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My friend Rod over at Modern Dad Pages wrote a piece recently that got me to thinking and wanting to respond in my own way to his question of “Why Do We Say Marriage Is A Lot Of Work?” ¬†He inspired me to want to write a blog post about it rather than leave a 600word essay¬†message ¬†in his comments.

Definition of work: Activity involving mental or physical effort done in order to achieve a purpose or result. This is according to a google search. ¬†It’s also the same definition in which Rod used. ¬†Google is a popular place…no wonder their stock price is 660.06 a share and up $24 at this moment. ¬†Oh wait I was talking about marriage here….

What I gather of Rod’s “opinion” is that marriage doesn’t fall under this definition. So let’s break it down…

*Activity ~ That would be the marriage

*Involving Mental or physical effort ~ I don’t know about you but marriage makes me mental. ¬†And I don’t mean this in a bad way…it doesn’t always make me want to stab my husband in the leg with a fork crazy all the time. ¬†Mental is also happy, giddy, sad, aggravated, horny, ….etc. ¬†As far as physical effort? ¬†Hello what’s sex? ¬†And I am sorry, I don’t care if you’ve been together 3 years or 30+ years…sex can sometimes be a physical effort. ¬†Not to mention that when you’re finished, and you have done it right, you are breathing like you just got done exercising. ¬†Exercising, by the definition standards of once again, google, is…¬†activity requiring physical effort, carried out especially to sustain or improve health and fitness and a good sex life. ¬†Yes I added the crossed out part. ¬†Somehow, it just looks like it fits in that definition.

Another form of physical effort…hugging, kissing, wrestling around playing, holding hands, smacking each other across the face ass…etc. ¬†It’s all physical and it all takes some effort …. from each of the participants.

*In order to achieve a purpose or result ~¬†All of the above must be done to “achieve” a successful marriage and not “result” in divorce.

Rod quoted:

“When I hear people talking about ‚Äúmarriage being a lot of work‚ÄĚ it actually strikes a cord deep in me and I have to ask ‚Äúwhy is marriage a lot of work, but when you hear people refer to a friend or best friend it flourishes‚ÄĚ?

In my “opinion” I think all relationships need work by both parties. ¬†A friendship only flourishes if both friends are making a mental and physical effort to be friends. ¬†Caring about that friend, physically calling or texting that friend, thinking about that friend, having mental images about the times had with that friend. ¬†If none of those are done…the friendship, as a result, dissolves. ¬†And a lifetime friendship is not achieved.

Therefore, marriage and friendships are only successfully attained when both participants inspire towards mental and physical aspects, efforts, attempts, etc. …. all in a result to work together.

Rod also quoted:

You shouldn‚Äôt feel like you need to do things to keep them happy rather they should appreciate the small things you do for them. Marriage should be to your best friend and it should flourish rather than feel like ‚Äúwork‚ÄĚ!

I agree that you should never feel obligated to make or keep someone happy.  Especially if there is no repercussion from the other person on efforts to make you happy.  But even the little things we do in our marriages and friendships, everyday, are mental and physical in order to achieve a long-lasting result.  If you completely ignore or fail to communicate with one another, there is nothing left to work on.

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For instance, if you go to work and there is nothing left to work on then you are let go(divorce) from said job(marriage).

In conclusion to Rod’s question…”my” answer is this: ¬†marriage is a lot of work due to the fact that by NOT working on it…it won’t exist. It’s mental and physical effort to achieve a successful result.

I want to thank Rod for inspiring me to get my opinionated juices flowing.

What’s your opinion?

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Daddy Is On Night Shift

I have acquired a small list of pros and cons for my husband working shift work.  Particularly night shifts.

PROS

*I get the bed to myself. ¬†I couldn’t stress more how great it is to be able to move freely without having to worry about whether or not I am keeping him awake. ¬†I also love that I am not awakened in the middle of the night by his snoring which resembles that of a freight train.

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Yes I snore too but I couldn’t find any funnies about women snoring. ¬†((smirks to self))

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I have heard ^this a time or twelve.

Moving on…

*I also get total control of the remoteimages-10 which means that I get to watch whatever I want on TV without hearing “what are you watching?” in a “I am a man I don’t watch this crap” kind of voice. ¬†This, of course, I take full advantage of and literally save up every episode of Housewives, Nashville, and any other “girl” related show that I currently like to watch, just for when he is on night shift.

*Taking a bath without being “interrupted”. ¬†Meaning….well we don’t need to get into description here but if you are a woman with a man who sees you in the bathtub you know what I am talking about. ¬†((blushes))

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*I don’t have to¬†share my wine…I get the entire bottle to myself!

*I can go to sleep without feeling guilty about being too tired for “that

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*It’s easier to think of “what’s for dinner” because I am only feeding the kids. ¬†Kids are easy to feed…with the exception of the teenagers who sometimes frown upon what I have made.

*I can blog, play Farmville, or any other “me” addiction I currently have without feeling culpable about it taking up too much of my attention.

CONS

*I suddenly have writer’s block…